Survive a Confidence Crash

Survive a Confidence Crash
January 27, 2012
By Taryn Galewind
Regain Your Self-Confidence and Self-Love

If you don’t love yourself, it’s impossible to love anyone else. Self-confidence, feeling that you are truly terrific and a very special person, is key to self-love. However, there isn’t a human who hasn’t suffered a flaming crash of confidence at one time or another.

You lose your job. You fail in a project that means the world to you. You and your best friend have a huge falling out. Your love life turns to dust. What do you do when you want to paint a big red “L” for loser on your forehead? Toss the paintbrush, and nurse yourself back to confidence health.

Acknowledge that you feel like day-old manure and wallow in self pity for exactly one day. Go ahead. Get a pint of decadent ice cream and a box of tissues. Spend all of Saturday brooding on how truly pathetic you feel.

Next, put away all that angst, no rehashing permitted. Take a luxurious bath, put on something you absolutely love to sleep in, and get a good night’s rest.

In the morning, gather your thoughts and figure out how the situation went awry. Consider, casually, how to avoid the same pitfalls in the future, but don’t pressure yourself.

“Whenever you are feeling stuck and are lacking confidence, you can go back and imagine and feel the joy associated with the times when you experienced success.” – Psychic Martisse ext. 5335

Get busy the next day or two doing things you like, especially things that benefit others. In bits and pieces, let your thoughts wander gently to how you feel. Acknowledge the feelings but don’t try to change them.

Set aside mandatory meditation time each day for the time being. Find an overcoming obstacles CD you can love. Use it in your meditation.

Set aside an hour to quietly write a written inventory of your finest points. Be very, very generous. Study the list and choose one or two you’d like to enhance.

“One of the most important things I remind people to do is count their blessings.” – Psychic Quinn ext. 5484

Find a friend you can trust with your deepest secrets and talk this all out. Tell your friend you’re not looking for solutions or for rescue, just someone to listen.

Write or find some affirmations you can tape to your mirror, load into your phone, and commit to memory. Say them every day until you’re back on track.

It boils down to being kind to yourself. Forgive yourself your mistakes—better yet, welcome them and see how they can help you grow. The best way to bounce back when your confidence is flattened is to bless yourself in the light of your value.

Open your eyes and open your heart to bask in the brightness of your self-worth. Give your soul a kiss.