"Dance like no one is watching; love like you've never been hurt. Sing like nobody's listening; live like it's heaven on earth."
~ Mark Twain
Monday, December 28, 2009
Sunday, December 27, 2009
Rev. Michael Discusses Spiritual Liberation
Michael Beckwith Discusses Spiritual Liberation
Michael Bernard Beckwith, well known spiritual teacher and featured contributor to The Secret, shares his teachings with the world in this powerful and compelling book of spiritual wisdom. In this handbook for spiritual revolutionaries, readers are both inspired and challenged to enter the journey to fulfilling their soul’s highest purpose — self-realization, and thereby to know what it means to be radically alive.
Michael Bernard Beckwith, well known spiritual teacher and featured contributor to The Secret, shares his teachings with the world in this powerful and compelling book of spiritual wisdom. In this handbook for spiritual revolutionaries, readers are both inspired and challenged to enter the journey to fulfilling their soul’s highest purpose — self-realization, and thereby to know what it means to be radically alive.
Saturday, December 26, 2009
Be Impeccable With Your Word
Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.
--Toltec wisdom --
--Toltec wisdom --
Out With the Old, In With the New
Retire The Past...
And favor the year ahead
by Christina Julian
As one year ends and another threatens to begin, it is the perfect time to assess this past year with one mission in mind - retiring it, in preparation for the year ahead. Don't get caught in the trap of lambasting everything you wish you would have done, instead focus on setting healthy and helpful intentions for the year to come. Let no avenue go un-chartered as you conduct an inventory of your life, making sure to cover areas around family dynamics, love and contentment, and career and financial goals. Here's how…
Shift focus
When we set out to conduct a life assessment the most common trapping is to hash and rehash what went wrong or not according to plan. Do yourself a favor by skipping that aspect of the inventory. You lived it, no need to re-live it. Instead, focus on all of the things or situations where you met or exceeded expectations. You finally got that healthy relationship you'd been yearning for or maybe a fruitful relationship with your boss. Great news! Stop and reflect on what went right and why. Chances are the positive movements that you experienced this year were a direct result of your hard work and commitment to the cause. It is important to take notice of what you did to impact positive change in your life, so you can parlay those good habits into other aspects of your life for the future.
Acknowledgment
It's been said that behind every great man or woman there was a remarkable person in their corner, encouraging them every step of the way. Same goes for all of us regular folks. We all know that it is easy to blame others when things go wrong. Flip that bad habit into a good one by giving kudos to those supportive people that have been rallying in your corner in good times and bad. The ones that believed in you when you might have lost hope or even given up all together. Why? First, it's just good karma to thank people, whether it was for helping you through rocky times, or celebrating some awesome ones. It's easier than you might think and it goes a long way in keeping those people in your court. It's a healthy habit to get into - rewarding good behavior. Everybody likes to be appreciated for their contribution and support. Second, by walking down that memory lane, you get to relive the positive aspects of those experiences.
Ditch the not-so-glad tidings and grudges
Nobody likes a scrooge, especially this time of year. You know who you are, stop it! If you have been cranky for no apparent reason it is time to swap that attitude for a healthy one. By shuffling around in a bad mood you're ensuring one thing - you will linger in your bad feelings. You're not only raining on your own parade, your also impacting those poor souls around you that are left to lap up the wake of your sour mood. Shift your mindset, your physical presence, your outfit, or your diet, whatever it takes to get the "funk" out of your system before year's end. This should go without saying but let's say it anyway. As the year draws to an end, so should it end any and all grudges that you've been harboring. Growling causes wrinkles, not to mention it can lead to poor mental and physical health. There is nothing to be gained by holding a grudge, little or small. The only thing that it will accomplish is holding you back from success and happiness in the New Year. Be the bigger person if need be, by apologizing, forgiving, or whatever it takes, but end this year by letting bygones be where they belong - in the past.
Chart the course ahead
Now that you've walked down memory lane, assessed what worked for and against you and ditched the bad feelings that were holding you back, you are ready to move forward. Take this time to ruminate on where you hope to take your life in the upcoming year and identify some of the proactive steps that you can take now to pave the way. Then enjoy the passing of one year in favor of what is right around the corner - new year, new beginning. Drive forward without looking back!
And favor the year ahead
by Christina Julian
As one year ends and another threatens to begin, it is the perfect time to assess this past year with one mission in mind - retiring it, in preparation for the year ahead. Don't get caught in the trap of lambasting everything you wish you would have done, instead focus on setting healthy and helpful intentions for the year to come. Let no avenue go un-chartered as you conduct an inventory of your life, making sure to cover areas around family dynamics, love and contentment, and career and financial goals. Here's how…
Shift focus
When we set out to conduct a life assessment the most common trapping is to hash and rehash what went wrong or not according to plan. Do yourself a favor by skipping that aspect of the inventory. You lived it, no need to re-live it. Instead, focus on all of the things or situations where you met or exceeded expectations. You finally got that healthy relationship you'd been yearning for or maybe a fruitful relationship with your boss. Great news! Stop and reflect on what went right and why. Chances are the positive movements that you experienced this year were a direct result of your hard work and commitment to the cause. It is important to take notice of what you did to impact positive change in your life, so you can parlay those good habits into other aspects of your life for the future.
Acknowledgment
It's been said that behind every great man or woman there was a remarkable person in their corner, encouraging them every step of the way. Same goes for all of us regular folks. We all know that it is easy to blame others when things go wrong. Flip that bad habit into a good one by giving kudos to those supportive people that have been rallying in your corner in good times and bad. The ones that believed in you when you might have lost hope or even given up all together. Why? First, it's just good karma to thank people, whether it was for helping you through rocky times, or celebrating some awesome ones. It's easier than you might think and it goes a long way in keeping those people in your court. It's a healthy habit to get into - rewarding good behavior. Everybody likes to be appreciated for their contribution and support. Second, by walking down that memory lane, you get to relive the positive aspects of those experiences.
Ditch the not-so-glad tidings and grudges
Nobody likes a scrooge, especially this time of year. You know who you are, stop it! If you have been cranky for no apparent reason it is time to swap that attitude for a healthy one. By shuffling around in a bad mood you're ensuring one thing - you will linger in your bad feelings. You're not only raining on your own parade, your also impacting those poor souls around you that are left to lap up the wake of your sour mood. Shift your mindset, your physical presence, your outfit, or your diet, whatever it takes to get the "funk" out of your system before year's end. This should go without saying but let's say it anyway. As the year draws to an end, so should it end any and all grudges that you've been harboring. Growling causes wrinkles, not to mention it can lead to poor mental and physical health. There is nothing to be gained by holding a grudge, little or small. The only thing that it will accomplish is holding you back from success and happiness in the New Year. Be the bigger person if need be, by apologizing, forgiving, or whatever it takes, but end this year by letting bygones be where they belong - in the past.
Chart the course ahead
Now that you've walked down memory lane, assessed what worked for and against you and ditched the bad feelings that were holding you back, you are ready to move forward. Take this time to ruminate on where you hope to take your life in the upcoming year and identify some of the proactive steps that you can take now to pave the way. Then enjoy the passing of one year in favor of what is right around the corner - new year, new beginning. Drive forward without looking back!
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
3 Ways to Quash Negative Thought Patterns
Negative Thought Patterns
3 ways to quash them
by Alina Mikos
Following a recent heart-to-heart conversation with a close friend about life choices, I found myself pondering a particular question: "If you looked at your inner voice as a separate person in your life, would you be friends with her?"
My immediate answer -- a resounding 'no,' prompts me to consciously watch and better train my 'inner friend.' Negative thinking, a perilous and all-too-common part of the human condition, places us at odds with our own better self and gives credence to the adage, "You are your own worst enemy." For most of us, this negative commentary is a well-established pattern,. It's self-programming of sorts, and it slips beneath our mental-health radar because it's frequently subconscious.
According to National Science Foundation statistics, the average person thinks roughly 12,000 thoughts per day. A deeper thinker cranks out 50,000 thoughts daily. That's an incredible number of thoughts running around, and if you're anything like me, some are certain to be self-deprecating.
Unwilling to accept the status quo, I've decided to alter the tone of my inner voice from judgmental to constructive and positive. I discovered 3 key points that I found most helpful in changing some of my knee-jerk negative thought patterns.
Observe your own mind at work
The first step is to really tune in to the intricate workings of your mind. Observe your responses to daily events, focusing on subtleties of thought. Most of us have blatant, instantaneous responses to critical events of our day. For example, if criticized by our boss in public, our transparent response would very likely be embarrassment accompanied by some anger at the insensitivity of our superior.
However, the more concealed thoughts might be even more harmful. Self-loathing, shame and worthlessness are far more detrimental to the human psyche. We need to carefully monitor our minds for these subtle but insidious thoughts which can be so damaging to our happiness and self-esteem.
Retrain your brain
Whenever a negative thought wriggles into your mind, immediately follow that notion with a positive one. Work at becoming your own loving parent, making an effort to correct that faulty inner voice; teach yourself to see things from a more positive and productive perspective.
It's helpful to consciously work on accepting and loving yourself as you are, which makes it so much easier to give ourselves a "pass" when we fail to live up to some impossible standard that we or society has set. And for those of us who typically count ourselves as paragons of emotional health given our current levels of happiness and success, we can ill afford to ignore the inevitable. Sooner or later, all of us will come to that moment when life simply hands us a catastrophe that rocks the foundations of our self-perceptions. In such a crisis, even the strongest of us will need to rely upon our previous training to find some encouragement in the dark days that face us. Fortunately, for those of us who have done our homework, we will have a positive wellspring from which to draw and sustain that brighter day.
Be patient with yourself
Negative self-talk is wired into the brain over time. Most of us have experienced some form of that negative internal voice all of our lives. It is most often a compilation of our childhood experiences (how our parents raised us), the impact of our educational system, diverse and incessant peer commentary, workplace criticisms and societal positioning. This negative element of the inner voice is firmly entrenched by adulthood and requires considerable time and effort to retrain. New learners need to be patient with themselves and be alert to the likelihood that the negative wiring will resist attempts to establish a more positive circuitry.
Finally, it helps to refuse to take yourself too seriously. To be able to laugh at ourselves and embrace the diversity of the human psyche as fascinating, surprising and heartwarming -- is one of the great joys in life. If we retain faith in ourselves, in our inclination to move in positive directions and in our power to do so, we can accomplish almost anything. Ultimately, we must acknowledge that we deserve to be happy and that the key to our happiness resides within us, including a healthy internal voice, now whispering words of compassion, understanding and love.
3 ways to quash them
by Alina Mikos
Following a recent heart-to-heart conversation with a close friend about life choices, I found myself pondering a particular question: "If you looked at your inner voice as a separate person in your life, would you be friends with her?"
My immediate answer -- a resounding 'no,' prompts me to consciously watch and better train my 'inner friend.' Negative thinking, a perilous and all-too-common part of the human condition, places us at odds with our own better self and gives credence to the adage, "You are your own worst enemy." For most of us, this negative commentary is a well-established pattern,. It's self-programming of sorts, and it slips beneath our mental-health radar because it's frequently subconscious.
According to National Science Foundation statistics, the average person thinks roughly 12,000 thoughts per day. A deeper thinker cranks out 50,000 thoughts daily. That's an incredible number of thoughts running around, and if you're anything like me, some are certain to be self-deprecating.
Unwilling to accept the status quo, I've decided to alter the tone of my inner voice from judgmental to constructive and positive. I discovered 3 key points that I found most helpful in changing some of my knee-jerk negative thought patterns.
Observe your own mind at work
The first step is to really tune in to the intricate workings of your mind. Observe your responses to daily events, focusing on subtleties of thought. Most of us have blatant, instantaneous responses to critical events of our day. For example, if criticized by our boss in public, our transparent response would very likely be embarrassment accompanied by some anger at the insensitivity of our superior.
However, the more concealed thoughts might be even more harmful. Self-loathing, shame and worthlessness are far more detrimental to the human psyche. We need to carefully monitor our minds for these subtle but insidious thoughts which can be so damaging to our happiness and self-esteem.
Retrain your brain
Whenever a negative thought wriggles into your mind, immediately follow that notion with a positive one. Work at becoming your own loving parent, making an effort to correct that faulty inner voice; teach yourself to see things from a more positive and productive perspective.
It's helpful to consciously work on accepting and loving yourself as you are, which makes it so much easier to give ourselves a "pass" when we fail to live up to some impossible standard that we or society has set. And for those of us who typically count ourselves as paragons of emotional health given our current levels of happiness and success, we can ill afford to ignore the inevitable. Sooner or later, all of us will come to that moment when life simply hands us a catastrophe that rocks the foundations of our self-perceptions. In such a crisis, even the strongest of us will need to rely upon our previous training to find some encouragement in the dark days that face us. Fortunately, for those of us who have done our homework, we will have a positive wellspring from which to draw and sustain that brighter day.
Be patient with yourself
Negative self-talk is wired into the brain over time. Most of us have experienced some form of that negative internal voice all of our lives. It is most often a compilation of our childhood experiences (how our parents raised us), the impact of our educational system, diverse and incessant peer commentary, workplace criticisms and societal positioning. This negative element of the inner voice is firmly entrenched by adulthood and requires considerable time and effort to retrain. New learners need to be patient with themselves and be alert to the likelihood that the negative wiring will resist attempts to establish a more positive circuitry.
Finally, it helps to refuse to take yourself too seriously. To be able to laugh at ourselves and embrace the diversity of the human psyche as fascinating, surprising and heartwarming -- is one of the great joys in life. If we retain faith in ourselves, in our inclination to move in positive directions and in our power to do so, we can accomplish almost anything. Ultimately, we must acknowledge that we deserve to be happy and that the key to our happiness resides within us, including a healthy internal voice, now whispering words of compassion, understanding and love.
Monday, December 21, 2009
Female Connections
"I only really understand myself, what I'm really thinking and feeling, when I've talked it over with my circle of female friends. When days go by without that connection, I feel like a radio playing in an empty room."
~ Anna Quindlen
~ Anna Quindlen
Sunday, December 13, 2009
Sunday, December 6, 2009
You're the ONLY One!
"There's only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that's your own self."
~ Aldous Huxley
Coach Sherrie says: If you are like me, there may have been a time in your life when you thought you could change your family members, your friends, your spouse. Hopefully, you now understand: the only person you can change is your self. Think about what you can change if someone you love is not meeting your expectations; love them anyway, help them find counseling, let them go? And then get on with the task of making yourself the best you can be.
~ Aldous Huxley
Coach Sherrie says: If you are like me, there may have been a time in your life when you thought you could change your family members, your friends, your spouse. Hopefully, you now understand: the only person you can change is your self. Think about what you can change if someone you love is not meeting your expectations; love them anyway, help them find counseling, let them go? And then get on with the task of making yourself the best you can be.
Let Go of Anger, Hurt ot Pain
"Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love."
~ Anonymous
Coach Sherrie says: Write about those feelings in a journal; write a poem about it; make a collage or a painting about it. Then, LET IT GO! No matter how bad someone hurt you, hanging on to the pain only hurts YOU. As Metger Evers says "the other person either doesn't know, or worse, doesn't care."
~ Anonymous
Coach Sherrie says: Write about those feelings in a journal; write a poem about it; make a collage or a painting about it. Then, LET IT GO! No matter how bad someone hurt you, hanging on to the pain only hurts YOU. As Metger Evers says "the other person either doesn't know, or worse, doesn't care."
Saturday, December 5, 2009
Jealousy = Fear
Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value. Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point - that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you. There is only one alternative - self-value. If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved. You will always think it's a mistake or luck....
Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within. Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security. Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them. ~Jennifer James
Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within. Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security. Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them. ~Jennifer James
Friday, November 27, 2009
The Joy of Giving
The Joy of Giving
"A gift is your way of expressing how you feel about another person."
~ Oprah
"A gift is your way of expressing how you feel about another person."
~ Oprah
The Glycemic Index and Weight Loss
Dear Friends and Valued Customers,
The glycemic index (GI) measures how quickly certain foods release carbohydrates into the body, which then raises blood glucose levels. High GI foods cause blood sugar levels to rise more rapidly, whereas a low GI rating that takes longer to digest and release sugar into the bloodstream produces a “full” sensation.
According to the Glycemic Index website, “Eating a lot of high GI foods can be detrimental to your health because it pushes your body to extremes. This is especially true if you are overweight and sedentary. Switching to eating mainly low GI carbs that slowly trickle glucose into your blood stream keeps your energy levels balanced and means you will feel fuller for longer between meals.”
This all leads up to a study that was reported recently in Nutrition Journal. Researchers found that a supplement derived from a white kidney bean extract can help reduce the glycemic index of some foods. Find out more about this fascinating study in my first report below.
Vitamin D is in the news again, as it often is. Now scientists believe that maintaining low levels of the “sunshine vitamin” may increase the risk of dying from all causes by 150%. This is just another instance of “bad news” for the body caused by low vitamin D levels. See my second report for more information.
My last report looks at green tea and the support it provides for healthy bones. Researchers in Hong Kong made the discovery and reported it in the Journal of Agricultural and Food Chemistry. Read about it below.
As always, I wish you the very best of health.
Lee Swanson
The glycemic index (GI) measures how quickly certain foods release carbohydrates into the body, which then raises blood glucose levels. High GI foods cause blood sugar levels to rise more rapidly, whereas a low GI rating that takes longer to digest and release sugar into the bloodstream produces a “full” sensation.
According to the Glycemic Index website, “Eating a lot of high GI foods can be detrimental to your health because it pushes your body to extremes. This is especially true if you are overweight and sedentary. Switching to eating mainly low GI carbs that slowly trickle glucose into your blood stream keeps your energy levels balanced and means you will feel fuller for longer between meals.”
This all leads up to a study that was reported recently in Nutrition Journal. Researchers found that a supplement derived from a white kidney bean extract can help reduce the glycemic index of some foods. Find out more about this fascinating study in my first report below.
Vitamin D is in the news again, as it often is. Now scientists believe that maintaining low levels of the “sunshine vitamin” may increase the risk of dying from all causes by 150%. This is just another instance of “bad news” for the body caused by low vitamin D levels. See my second report for more information.
My last report looks at green tea and the support it provides for healthy bones. Researchers in Hong Kong made the discovery and reported it in the Journal of Agricultural and Food Chemistry. Read about it below.
As always, I wish you the very best of health.
Lee Swanson
Thursday, November 26, 2009
Be Grateful for Your Friends
I only really understand myself, what I'm really thinking and feelings, when I've talked it over with my circle of female friends. When days go by without that connection, I feel like a radio playing in an empty room.
~ Anna Quindlen
~ Anna Quindlen
Open Your Eyes And See the Miracles
“If I know nothing else for sure, I know that the big miracles we're waiting on are happening right in front of us, at every moment, with every breath. Open your eyes and heart and you'll begin to see them.”
~ Oprah
~ Oprah
Our Thoughts Make Our Life
"Our life is what our thoughts make it. A man/woman will find that as he alters his thoughts toward things and other people, things and other people will alter towards him. "
~James Allen
~James Allen
Sunday, November 22, 2009
Devote Yourself to Kindness
"When we are devoted to the development of kindness it becomes a movement of the heart so deep and subtle it is like a movement of the sea close to the ocean floor, all but hidden, yet affecting absolutely everything that happens above. That's the force of kindness."
~ Sharon Salzberg
~ Sharon Salzberg
Real Weight Loss
Well, my husband has done it! He has lost 15 lbs. in
about one month's time. Was it easy? No, but he had
an incentive. His blood sugar tested high enough for
the doctor to put him on Diabetes medicine. O.K. HERE
IT IS! THIS IS THE MAGIC FORMULA THAT WORKED FOR HIM:
PROTIEN - LOTS OF MEAT AND NUTS AND CHEESE
VEGETABLES - ANY NON-STARCHY VEGIES (NO POTATOES!)
WATER - NO JUICES OR SODAS (HE OCCASIONALLY HAS A
DIET SODA-YUCK!)
I know it sounds drastic AND HARD, but after you lose
the weight, you can slowly start bringing back some
fruit and starchy vegetables into your diet. You have
to stay away from anything made with gluten or flour
though. Otherwise, you'll just gain the weight back.
One other thing: my hubby now drinks Decaf coffee
with Cremora and Splenda. That is his desset. I think
I can do this IF I can have my coffee.
Wish me luck and let me know if any of you out there
has any success stories.
All the best,
Sherrie <3
about one month's time. Was it easy? No, but he had
an incentive. His blood sugar tested high enough for
the doctor to put him on Diabetes medicine. O.K. HERE
IT IS! THIS IS THE MAGIC FORMULA THAT WORKED FOR HIM:
PROTIEN - LOTS OF MEAT AND NUTS AND CHEESE
VEGETABLES - ANY NON-STARCHY VEGIES (NO POTATOES!)
WATER - NO JUICES OR SODAS (HE OCCASIONALLY HAS A
DIET SODA-YUCK!)
I know it sounds drastic AND HARD, but after you lose
the weight, you can slowly start bringing back some
fruit and starchy vegetables into your diet. You have
to stay away from anything made with gluten or flour
though. Otherwise, you'll just gain the weight back.
One other thing: my hubby now drinks Decaf coffee
with Cremora and Splenda. That is his desset. I think
I can do this IF I can have my coffee.
Wish me luck and let me know if any of you out there
has any success stories.
All the best,
Sherrie <3
A Touch, A Smile, A Kind Word
"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around."
~ Leo Buscaglia
~ Leo Buscaglia
Friday, November 13, 2009
Who You Are IS What You Do
"Every decision you make-every decision-is not a decision about what to do. It's a decision about who you are. When you see this, when you understand it, everything changes. You begin to see life in a new way. All events, occurrences, and situations turn into opportunities to do what you came here to do."
~Neale Donald Walsch
from "Conversations With God"
~Neale Donald Walsch
from "Conversations With God"
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Worry Cuts A Channel
"Worry is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained."
~ Arthur Somers Roche
~ Arthur Somers Roche
Monday, November 9, 2009
Being Grateful
"The single greatest thing you can do to change your life today would be to start being grateful for what you have right now. And the more grateful you are, the more you get."
~ Oprah
~ Oprah
Sunday, November 1, 2009
With Laughter, You Can Survive Anything
"Through humor, you can soften some of the worst blows that life delivers. And once you find laughter, no matter how painful your situation might be, you can survive it."
~ Bill Cosby
Coach Sherrie says: I am finally trying to bring more humor into my own life. I spent much of my life taking myself so seriously that I had no idea how to just "BE" and "Enjoy the Moment." Life is so much better since I am learning this simple pleasure.
~ Bill Cosby
Coach Sherrie says: I am finally trying to bring more humor into my own life. I spent much of my life taking myself so seriously that I had no idea how to just "BE" and "Enjoy the Moment." Life is so much better since I am learning this simple pleasure.
Sunday, October 25, 2009
Breathe Deeply
"Breath Deeply & remember everyday is a chance to start over".
"Go with the flow & trust that what happens is meant to be"
Anonymous
"Go with the flow & trust that what happens is meant to be"
Anonymous
In Silence, the Soul Finds a Path
"In the attitude of silence the soul finds the path in a clearer light, and what is elusive and deceptive resolves itself into crystal clearness."
~ Mahatma Gandhi
~ Mahatma Gandhi
Saturday, October 17, 2009
Amarinda Jones on "Living Out Loud"
Living loud…
What do you think living out loud means?
- Is it the freedom to just be who the hell you are, with all your flaws and annoying idiosyncrasies, without worrying if someone likes you because the bottom line is you can only be who you are and not pander or others?
- Is it being daring and standing out and up and saying “bugger off, I don’t care if everyone else is doing it, it’s against everything I believe in, so I’m not.”
- Is it being at peace with yourself and knowing that you were never meant to be anyone else and that competing with others is just a waste of time?
- Is it about accepting that you may never be as beautiful or as smart as another and that’s okay because who wants to be like them? They can never be you.
I believe living out loud is all that but also being bold and different and ready to take risks knowing you’ll probably fall on your arse but what the hell – cellulite makes you rebound.
I also reckon EE Cummings got it right.
www.amarindajones.com
www.amarindajones.blogspot.com
Be daring...read an Amarinda book
What do you think living out loud means?
- Is it the freedom to just be who the hell you are, with all your flaws and annoying idiosyncrasies, without worrying if someone likes you because the bottom line is you can only be who you are and not pander or others?
- Is it being daring and standing out and up and saying “bugger off, I don’t care if everyone else is doing it, it’s against everything I believe in, so I’m not.”
- Is it being at peace with yourself and knowing that you were never meant to be anyone else and that competing with others is just a waste of time?
- Is it about accepting that you may never be as beautiful or as smart as another and that’s okay because who wants to be like them? They can never be you.
I believe living out loud is all that but also being bold and different and ready to take risks knowing you’ll probably fall on your arse but what the hell – cellulite makes you rebound.
I also reckon EE Cummings got it right.
www.amarindajones.com
www.amarindajones.blogspot.com
Be daring...read an Amarinda book
Sunday, October 11, 2009
See It to Be It!
Daily Spiritual Message
"Ask God, angels and your guides to help you achieve your dreams. Be specific down to the tiniest detail. Program your mind for success and see yourself achieving your goals."
Sylvia Browne
"Ask God, angels and your guides to help you achieve your dreams. Be specific down to the tiniest detail. Program your mind for success and see yourself achieving your goals."
Sylvia Browne
See It to Be It!
Daily Spiritual Message
"Ask God, angels and your guides to help you achieve your dreams. Be specific down to the tiniest detail. Program your mind for success and see yourself achieving your goals."
Sylvia Browne
"Ask God, angels and your guides to help you achieve your dreams. Be specific down to the tiniest detail. Program your mind for success and see yourself achieving your goals."
Sylvia Browne
Saturday, October 10, 2009
What Drives You?
Quiz: What Drives You?
Get behind your motives
by S.K. Smith
When was the last time you felt inspired? Whether it's at work, in your love life or related to your hobbies, friendships or exercise regimen, knowing what gets you going can be a powerful tool toward achieving your goals. Your motivations hold the key to your aspirations. By understanding why we do things, we can change how we do them - and improve our results!
Take our quick score-it-yourself quiz and find out what drives you. Then calculate how to make the most of it!
1. You've just started a new workout plan, diet or ritual (such as journal writing). You will most likely stick to it if…
a. You have a sincere, strong desire to reach your goal: "I want to be able to say I did what I set out to do!"
b. You have a friend doing it with you: "I'm always better if others are relying on me."
c. The process and end result are important to your internal growth: "I know it's time for a change, and I'm ready!"
d. Your health requires it.
e. It will improve your standing within the community (among your professional, personal or romantic circles, or any and all of the above).
2. You've been working particularly hard lately, but you feel good about it because…
a. It's clear, at the moment, that you have a purpose. You're always best when you're using your brain and talents.
b. This is improving your relationship with your boss and your co-workers. That team spirit is in the air!
c. You're learning your own strengths and weaknesses - all of which will better prepare you for future challenges.
d. You're getting overtime pay or a bonus - or you've been assured that the importance of your role is being solidified by your efforts.
e. You're getting closer to the top of the ladder.
3. You've been working really hard lately, but you feel horrible about it because…
a. There's no end in sight - you've only got exhaustion to show for your troubles!
b. Your boss doesn't appreciate it, or your co-workers resent it. So what's the point of giving 110%?
c. Busy work is fine for a time, but at a certain point, you've got to get something out of what you're doing… or it's pointless!
d. People who are working just as hard have gotten laid off or fired recently - all the effort doesn't even guarantee you'll keep your job, never mind getting a raise or a bonus.
e. You're seen as a grunt. The boss (or anyone who's important) never has to work this hard.
4. You're hosting a party… You'll feel like it was a hit if…
a. The food, drinks and music are awesome, and a great time is had by all.
b. The mix of people is perfect - and strangers wind up becoming friends.
c. The conversation is intriguing. Interesting topics are broac
hed, and the discussion continues long into the night.
d. Everyone agrees that your parties are the best.
e. It looks really expensive (even if it wasn't), and everyone is duly impressed.
5. Which sounds like the best way to spend a weekend night?
a. Using that free time to get some extra work done. I can sleep or socialize do when I'm old - or dead!
b. Getting out and about with the people I like most.
c. Sitting around a dinner table with like-minded people, solving the problems of the universe - or at least talking about them!
d. Networking with my bosses and colleagues at the office event of the week.
e. Networking at an industry event, where I can make my presence known.
6. You run into an old friend or acquaintance. You're most likely to talk about:
a. What you've been doing professionally.
b. Your love life.
c. How much you've changed since way back when…
d. Money.
e. How you compare to your mutual friends.
Scoring
People are motivated by different factors, so if you answered...
Mostly A, you're motivated by Achievement
You're someone who likes to meet their goals - less for the recognition, perhaps, than for the sense of accomplishment and purpose that meeting those goals provides. You like to feel like your days have meaning and that you're contributing to the world around you. To get ahead in any arena, you'll want to make it a point to se
t goals as often as possible, and to update them whenever necessary. By keeping your heart's desires in sight (and yourself on track), not only are you laying down a road map to get you where you want to go over the long haul - you're also giving yourself the gift of little achievements along the way. This increases your odds of meeting your larger goals, by keeping the feeling of success fresh in your mind, and reminding you why you're doing these things in the first place.
Mostly B, you're motivated by Relationships
You're a people person. You need to be social, and you care very much that you're liked. You're apt to spend time participating in activities that ensure your relationships are strong, friendly and respectful. To give yourself an advantage in any endeavor, do whatever you can to facilitate interactive group activity. Build a team to accomplish a project at the office - or suggest a team (if you're in a subordinate role) and give your all in your role as a part of it. Include group dates as part of your romantic repertoire, so that you and your significant other can socialize, forging outside relationships together. Recruit a friend or two to be your workout buddies, so you can benefit from exercise - and each other's company.
Mostly C, you're motivated by Growth
Some people have a higher calling… and yours might be described as trying to maximize your personal growth during20your time here. Always on a quest for self-improvement, you find enjoyment in activities that expand your self-awareness, knowledge and consciousness. You're apt to dive in head first when you sense there is something to be learned from an experience, assignment or exchange. So if you can frame your larger goals and daily tasks as endeavors of expansion, focusing on where you can bolster your strengths, lessen your weaknesses and increase your knowledge base, you're more likely to give projects your all.
Mostly D, you're motivated by Security
You are someone who values predictability, and thrives when they know they can count on certain expectations to come to fruition. Rather than making mounds of money, you are driven by what is going to keep you safe and secure - certainly no worse off than the current status quo. Understandable - and for many, relatable - the trouble with this attitude is that depending on how far you take it, it may prevent you from taking chances or achieving anything more than the bare minimum you need to "get by." You might want to make a list of your true needs, and detail what you're doing to meet them. With that done, you can rest easy that you are secure, and get onto the business of thriving - rather than simply surviving!
Mostly E, you're motivated by Power
Let's face it - you're in it to win it. By your standards, that means being - and being seen as the best at whatever it is that you do. As a result, you're driven to do anything that increases your control over a situation, or improves how you're perceived, especially in comparison with your peers. If you can curb your power-hungry tendencies and aim to earn others' respect - as opposed to controlling them - you'll keep your friends along the way.
Coach Sherrie says: I had 5 Cs. I'm motivated by Growth. That's cool.
What motivates you? Write a response to this post. ;-)
Get behind your motives
by S.K. Smith
When was the last time you felt inspired? Whether it's at work, in your love life or related to your hobbies, friendships or exercise regimen, knowing what gets you going can be a powerful tool toward achieving your goals. Your motivations hold the key to your aspirations. By understanding why we do things, we can change how we do them - and improve our results!
Take our quick score-it-yourself quiz and find out what drives you. Then calculate how to make the most of it!
1. You've just started a new workout plan, diet or ritual (such as journal writing). You will most likely stick to it if…
a. You have a sincere, strong desire to reach your goal: "I want to be able to say I did what I set out to do!"
b. You have a friend doing it with you: "I'm always better if others are relying on me."
c. The process and end result are important to your internal growth: "I know it's time for a change, and I'm ready!"
d. Your health requires it.
e. It will improve your standing within the community (among your professional, personal or romantic circles, or any and all of the above).
2. You've been working particularly hard lately, but you feel good about it because…
a. It's clear, at the moment, that you have a purpose. You're always best when you're using your brain and talents.
b. This is improving your relationship with your boss and your co-workers. That team spirit is in the air!
c. You're learning your own strengths and weaknesses - all of which will better prepare you for future challenges.
d. You're getting overtime pay or a bonus - or you've been assured that the importance of your role is being solidified by your efforts.
e. You're getting closer to the top of the ladder.
3. You've been working really hard lately, but you feel horrible about it because…
a. There's no end in sight - you've only got exhaustion to show for your troubles!
b. Your boss doesn't appreciate it, or your co-workers resent it. So what's the point of giving 110%?
c. Busy work is fine for a time, but at a certain point, you've got to get something out of what you're doing… or it's pointless!
d. People who are working just as hard have gotten laid off or fired recently - all the effort doesn't even guarantee you'll keep your job, never mind getting a raise or a bonus.
e. You're seen as a grunt. The boss (or anyone who's important) never has to work this hard.
4. You're hosting a party… You'll feel like it was a hit if…
a. The food, drinks and music are awesome, and a great time is had by all.
b. The mix of people is perfect - and strangers wind up becoming friends.
c. The conversation is intriguing. Interesting topics are broac
hed, and the discussion continues long into the night.
d. Everyone agrees that your parties are the best.
e. It looks really expensive (even if it wasn't), and everyone is duly impressed.
5. Which sounds like the best way to spend a weekend night?
a. Using that free time to get some extra work done. I can sleep or socialize do when I'm old - or dead!
b. Getting out and about with the people I like most.
c. Sitting around a dinner table with like-minded people, solving the problems of the universe - or at least talking about them!
d. Networking with my bosses and colleagues at the office event of the week.
e. Networking at an industry event, where I can make my presence known.
6. You run into an old friend or acquaintance. You're most likely to talk about:
a. What you've been doing professionally.
b. Your love life.
c. How much you've changed since way back when…
d. Money.
e. How you compare to your mutual friends.
Scoring
People are motivated by different factors, so if you answered...
Mostly A, you're motivated by Achievement
You're someone who likes to meet their goals - less for the recognition, perhaps, than for the sense of accomplishment and purpose that meeting those goals provides. You like to feel like your days have meaning and that you're contributing to the world around you. To get ahead in any arena, you'll want to make it a point to se
t goals as often as possible, and to update them whenever necessary. By keeping your heart's desires in sight (and yourself on track), not only are you laying down a road map to get you where you want to go over the long haul - you're also giving yourself the gift of little achievements along the way. This increases your odds of meeting your larger goals, by keeping the feeling of success fresh in your mind, and reminding you why you're doing these things in the first place.
Mostly B, you're motivated by Relationships
You're a people person. You need to be social, and you care very much that you're liked. You're apt to spend time participating in activities that ensure your relationships are strong, friendly and respectful. To give yourself an advantage in any endeavor, do whatever you can to facilitate interactive group activity. Build a team to accomplish a project at the office - or suggest a team (if you're in a subordinate role) and give your all in your role as a part of it. Include group dates as part of your romantic repertoire, so that you and your significant other can socialize, forging outside relationships together. Recruit a friend or two to be your workout buddies, so you can benefit from exercise - and each other's company.
Mostly C, you're motivated by Growth
Some people have a higher calling… and yours might be described as trying to maximize your personal growth during20your time here. Always on a quest for self-improvement, you find enjoyment in activities that expand your self-awareness, knowledge and consciousness. You're apt to dive in head first when you sense there is something to be learned from an experience, assignment or exchange. So if you can frame your larger goals and daily tasks as endeavors of expansion, focusing on where you can bolster your strengths, lessen your weaknesses and increase your knowledge base, you're more likely to give projects your all.
Mostly D, you're motivated by Security
You are someone who values predictability, and thrives when they know they can count on certain expectations to come to fruition. Rather than making mounds of money, you are driven by what is going to keep you safe and secure - certainly no worse off than the current status quo. Understandable - and for many, relatable - the trouble with this attitude is that depending on how far you take it, it may prevent you from taking chances or achieving anything more than the bare minimum you need to "get by." You might want to make a list of your true needs, and detail what you're doing to meet them. With that done, you can rest easy that you are secure, and get onto the business of thriving - rather than simply surviving!
Mostly E, you're motivated by Power
Let's face it - you're in it to win it. By your standards, that means being - and being seen as the best at whatever it is that you do. As a result, you're driven to do anything that increases your control over a situation, or improves how you're perceived, especially in comparison with your peers. If you can curb your power-hungry tendencies and aim to earn others' respect - as opposed to controlling them - you'll keep your friends along the way.
Coach Sherrie says: I had 5 Cs. I'm motivated by Growth. That's cool.
What motivates you? Write a response to this post. ;-)
Friday, October 9, 2009
21 Ways to be inspired
21 Ways to Be Inspired
Next » Take Time Out
By Laurie Sue Brockway and Victor Fuhrman
There are so many ways to find inspiration in daily life. It does not require a lot of money or time. The only requirement is to open your spiritual eyes and choose to see life, and life’s natural wonders, in a new light.
Take a few minutes just for you to click through this gallery for easy ways to observe nature, meditate, pray, clear your head, have a good laugh or simply relax.
Read more ways to find inspiration in daily life.
Next Slide: Watch the Sun Rise »
Next » http://www.beliefnet.com/inspiration/2009/09/21-ways-to-be-inspired.aspx?
Next » Take Time Out
By Laurie Sue Brockway and Victor Fuhrman
There are so many ways to find inspiration in daily life. It does not require a lot of money or time. The only requirement is to open your spiritual eyes and choose to see life, and life’s natural wonders, in a new light.
Take a few minutes just for you to click through this gallery for easy ways to observe nature, meditate, pray, clear your head, have a good laugh or simply relax.
Read more ways to find inspiration in daily life.
Next Slide: Watch the Sun Rise »
Next » http://www.beliefnet.com/inspiration/2009/09/21-ways-to-be-inspired.aspx?
Monday, October 5, 2009
Age Has Given Me What I Was Looking For
"Age has given me what I was looking for my entire life - it gave me
me. It provided the time and experience and failures and triumphs and
friends who helped me step into the shape that had been waiting for me all
my life....I not only get along with me most of the time now, I am militantly and maternally on my own side."
Anne Lamott
me. It provided the time and experience and failures and triumphs and
friends who helped me step into the shape that had been waiting for me all
my life....I not only get along with me most of the time now, I am militantly and maternally on my own side."
Anne Lamott
Sunday, October 4, 2009
When Life's Not Fair
When Life’s Not Fair
4 ways to deal with injustices
by S.K. Smith
It's an unfortunate fact that sometimes, life's just not fair. From accidents to breakups to misunderstandings to job losses and even death... bad things do happen to good people. So what do you do when you're faced with a situation you didn't see coming - and didn't ask for?
Maybe it's something that throws you off-course in a way you couldn't have predicted, and brings into question everything you believe? The trick to surviving life's injustices - great and small - isn't in avoiding them. Rather, it lies in how you react once they've happened! Here's a 4-step approach for dealing with those situations in which life simply isn't fair…
Step away
Sometimes in the case of an accident or incident it's worthwhile to write down what you remember immediately - for a multitude of reasons. Trying to actually get some perspective on why it happened or what you can take from it is going to take some time. That's because it's nearly impossible to see things clearly in the immediate aftermath of something negative or surprising. Our heads are too clouded by anger, hurt, sadness or shock for a reasoned, introspective reaction.
Checklist to take control
So instead of stewing on the details in an attempt to unravel what seems like an unsolvable mystery, allow yourself some breathing room. Step away from what's happened for an hour or a day or a week before attempting to take stock. You're not losing your advantage or your chance to affect the situation by giving yourself a moment or 10 - you're gathering your composure, and improving your chances of making the most of the mishap, or at least showing your best grace under pressure.
Take stock
Now that you've given yourself the chance to calm down and clear your head, you can more accurately assess what went wrong. Rather than placing blame, try to look at it from all angles. Examine what you could have done differently before or after the fact, and try to determine how you will handle disappointments, hurts and other offenses in the future - not in a spirit of guilt, but rather personal growth. Don't make it about some person or entity who "wronged" you. Make it about the behavior you encountered, and what it has to teach you about yourself.
By taking whatever lesson there is to be found in the situation, you make sure your pain wasn't wasted. Whether what you learn is profoundly connected to patterns you've allowed to exist in your relationships, or as simple as the realization that we all need to experience the lows in order to appreciate the highs, you'll want to take note of it.
Next, set forth the intention to grow from this experience by making a plan to address any areas you want to change, and decide how you intend to change them. Set goals for yourself, and ensure you will always know you've done what you could. For example, determine that you will stay calm under pressure, and take people's words at face value. Decide that you will hold up your end of the bargain, regardless of what someone else does.
Speak up
Once you've looked at the curveball that's been thrown your way, taken responsibility for any part you might have had in it, and arm yourself with a plan for combating similar instances in the future. It's important that you express your feelings about the situation. Whether you feel that what happened was unfair, unforeseeable, preventable, cruel or simply something you wish never occurred, getting your thoughts and emotions off your chest will go a long way toward helping you heal. Even if your words fall on deaf ears, you will be able to rest assured that you made yourself clear. Eventually, that will help you to move forward.
On that note, don't fall victim to the desire to change someone's mind - or their heart - by repeating yourself over and over again. Speaking your mind once, clearly, is enough to get your point across. Addressing an injustice more than that could indicate that you're trying to change the outcome rather than trying to clear the air and move on… which might keep you stuck in the same emotional space even longer.
Finally, with the lesson of the mishap learned and your feelings expressed, it's important that you let go of the negative emotions and move on. It may be a little at a time in the case of major life changes, but you can do it.
Continue to remember the plan of action you set, and take positive steps every day toward achieving the goals you've laid out. That's not to say negative situations will not arise in the future, but the more firmly grounded you are in your truths, the easier it will be to move through an unforeseen occurrence the next time around.
4 ways to deal with injustices
by S.K. Smith
It's an unfortunate fact that sometimes, life's just not fair. From accidents to breakups to misunderstandings to job losses and even death... bad things do happen to good people. So what do you do when you're faced with a situation you didn't see coming - and didn't ask for?
Maybe it's something that throws you off-course in a way you couldn't have predicted, and brings into question everything you believe? The trick to surviving life's injustices - great and small - isn't in avoiding them. Rather, it lies in how you react once they've happened! Here's a 4-step approach for dealing with those situations in which life simply isn't fair…
Step away
Sometimes in the case of an accident or incident it's worthwhile to write down what you remember immediately - for a multitude of reasons. Trying to actually get some perspective on why it happened or what you can take from it is going to take some time. That's because it's nearly impossible to see things clearly in the immediate aftermath of something negative or surprising. Our heads are too clouded by anger, hurt, sadness or shock for a reasoned, introspective reaction.
Checklist to take control
So instead of stewing on the details in an attempt to unravel what seems like an unsolvable mystery, allow yourself some breathing room. Step away from what's happened for an hour or a day or a week before attempting to take stock. You're not losing your advantage or your chance to affect the situation by giving yourself a moment or 10 - you're gathering your composure, and improving your chances of making the most of the mishap, or at least showing your best grace under pressure.
Take stock
Now that you've given yourself the chance to calm down and clear your head, you can more accurately assess what went wrong. Rather than placing blame, try to look at it from all angles. Examine what you could have done differently before or after the fact, and try to determine how you will handle disappointments, hurts and other offenses in the future - not in a spirit of guilt, but rather personal growth. Don't make it about some person or entity who "wronged" you. Make it about the behavior you encountered, and what it has to teach you about yourself.
By taking whatever lesson there is to be found in the situation, you make sure your pain wasn't wasted. Whether what you learn is profoundly connected to patterns you've allowed to exist in your relationships, or as simple as the realization that we all need to experience the lows in order to appreciate the highs, you'll want to take note of it.
Next, set forth the intention to grow from this experience by making a plan to address any areas you want to change, and decide how you intend to change them. Set goals for yourself, and ensure you will always know you've done what you could. For example, determine that you will stay calm under pressure, and take people's words at face value. Decide that you will hold up your end of the bargain, regardless of what someone else does.
Speak up
Once you've looked at the curveball that's been thrown your way, taken responsibility for any part you might have had in it, and arm yourself with a plan for combating similar instances in the future. It's important that you express your feelings about the situation. Whether you feel that what happened was unfair, unforeseeable, preventable, cruel or simply something you wish never occurred, getting your thoughts and emotions off your chest will go a long way toward helping you heal. Even if your words fall on deaf ears, you will be able to rest assured that you made yourself clear. Eventually, that will help you to move forward.
On that note, don't fall victim to the desire to change someone's mind - or their heart - by repeating yourself over and over again. Speaking your mind once, clearly, is enough to get your point across. Addressing an injustice more than that could indicate that you're trying to change the outcome rather than trying to clear the air and move on… which might keep you stuck in the same emotional space even longer.
Finally, with the lesson of the mishap learned and your feelings expressed, it's important that you let go of the negative emotions and move on. It may be a little at a time in the case of major life changes, but you can do it.
Continue to remember the plan of action you set, and take positive steps every day toward achieving the goals you've laid out. That's not to say negative situations will not arise in the future, but the more firmly grounded you are in your truths, the easier it will be to move through an unforeseen occurrence the next time around.
Saturday, October 3, 2009
A Loss May Well Be A Blessing
"What looks like a loss may be the very event which is subsequently responsible
for helping to produce the major achievement of your life."
~ Srully D. Blotnick
for helping to produce the major achievement of your life."
~ Srully D. Blotnick
Friday, October 2, 2009
Walk In Defiance
"People want what they want. Sometimes you just have to walk
in defiance of it and just be yourself."
~ Meryl Streep
in defiance of it and just be yourself."
~ Meryl Streep
Thursday, October 1, 2009
Humor Is Not A Postscript
Humor is not a postscript or an incidental afterthought; it is a serious and weighty part of the world's economy. One feels increasingly the height of the faculty in which it arises, the nobility of things associated with it, and the greatness of services it renders.
~ Oscar W. Firkins
Coach Sherrie says: My husband says I'm waaay too serious. I need to learn to laugh more. I wish I found more things funny. The only thing that really gives me that earth shaking belly laugh is "Frazier." And sometimes, I start laughing uncontrollably at my hubby, but I usually laugh at something that he doesn't find funny. ;->
~ Oscar W. Firkins
Coach Sherrie says: My husband says I'm waaay too serious. I need to learn to laugh more. I wish I found more things funny. The only thing that really gives me that earth shaking belly laugh is "Frazier." And sometimes, I start laughing uncontrollably at my hubby, but I usually laugh at something that he doesn't find funny. ;->
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Understand the Power of NOW
Understand the Power of Now
3 simple steps to embrace the moment
by Martine Jeanne Craughley
If you've taken a yoga class you might have been asked to "stay present." What on earth does that mean, you wonder. If you're here, aren't you "present"?
Spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle, in his now-classic, bestselling book, The Power of Now, attempts to break it down for us. He suggests that being fully present, or living with joy, means to be absorbed in this very moment - without thoughts rattling around in our heads. Tolle says we exist in our purest state beneath the frantic chatter of the conscious, ego-driven mind.
Buddhism for every day life
If you've ever been in an emergency where you felt supercharged, and responded instantly with a startling clarity of action - you've entered the state that Tolle believes is our natural mode of being. But how do you stop the chatter in your head that blocks this pure state of mind? With so much to do and think about all the time, we need to learn to quiet the compulsive thinking of the mind.
Below are three simple steps to help you get in touch with your natural state of mind - without the chatter. In other words, it's how you tap into The Power of Now.
Reflect
Pay attention to what you're thinking as you're waiting in line for a latte or receiving a stack of papers from your boss. Observe your thoughts and judgments - about others, about yourself, or about situations. Listen for repetitive mental statements such as "things never work out for me," or "she has it so easy." Once you're aware of the contents of your mind, you can make conscious changes.
Sense
If you're sitting on the subway, feel the temperature of the seat beneath you. Notice the change in the air when the doors open, be aware of how lightly or heavily you sit. Are you perched, or slumped? How many sounds can you distinguish? What are the scents in the air? In really noticing your body and your senses, you'll have a fuller appreciation of your reality and of the moment.
Focus
Go somewhere with natural beauty - even a quiet garden will do. Allow yourself to really look with deep interest and intent at the natural world. Examine the soft petals of a rose, the gleam on a beetle's back, the shades of yellows in a sunflower's center. Give yourself a moment to be in touch with nature, like you were as a child. After a few minutes of close observation, look up and see if somehow you feel different - because you will!
Do these exercises every day. Soon, these little actions will break the spell of the mind, where you're so lost in thought that you're unaware of your own surroundings, unaware of the present moment. Tolle advises those who want to experience the world beneath the (noisy) world to resist nothing - to accept life as it is, to feel the feelings this brings up, and to watch them be transformed through attention and observance. You will then live in the now, and feel its power in everything you do!
3 simple steps to embrace the moment
by Martine Jeanne Craughley
If you've taken a yoga class you might have been asked to "stay present." What on earth does that mean, you wonder. If you're here, aren't you "present"?
Spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle, in his now-classic, bestselling book, The Power of Now, attempts to break it down for us. He suggests that being fully present, or living with joy, means to be absorbed in this very moment - without thoughts rattling around in our heads. Tolle says we exist in our purest state beneath the frantic chatter of the conscious, ego-driven mind.
Buddhism for every day life
If you've ever been in an emergency where you felt supercharged, and responded instantly with a startling clarity of action - you've entered the state that Tolle believes is our natural mode of being. But how do you stop the chatter in your head that blocks this pure state of mind? With so much to do and think about all the time, we need to learn to quiet the compulsive thinking of the mind.
Below are three simple steps to help you get in touch with your natural state of mind - without the chatter. In other words, it's how you tap into The Power of Now.
Reflect
Pay attention to what you're thinking as you're waiting in line for a latte or receiving a stack of papers from your boss. Observe your thoughts and judgments - about others, about yourself, or about situations. Listen for repetitive mental statements such as "things never work out for me," or "she has it so easy." Once you're aware of the contents of your mind, you can make conscious changes.
Sense
If you're sitting on the subway, feel the temperature of the seat beneath you. Notice the change in the air when the doors open, be aware of how lightly or heavily you sit. Are you perched, or slumped? How many sounds can you distinguish? What are the scents in the air? In really noticing your body and your senses, you'll have a fuller appreciation of your reality and of the moment.
Focus
Go somewhere with natural beauty - even a quiet garden will do. Allow yourself to really look with deep interest and intent at the natural world. Examine the soft petals of a rose, the gleam on a beetle's back, the shades of yellows in a sunflower's center. Give yourself a moment to be in touch with nature, like you were as a child. After a few minutes of close observation, look up and see if somehow you feel different - because you will!
Do these exercises every day. Soon, these little actions will break the spell of the mind, where you're so lost in thought that you're unaware of your own surroundings, unaware of the present moment. Tolle advises those who want to experience the world beneath the (noisy) world to resist nothing - to accept life as it is, to feel the feelings this brings up, and to watch them be transformed through attention and observance. You will then live in the now, and feel its power in everything you do!
Stay Present In the Present
Be Where You Are
Stay present in the present
by Christina Julian
Often times we find ourselves putting off the idea of enjoying our lives fully until such-and-such happens, or when so-and-so sweeps in to save us from our current life. And let's not forget the ever-popular, waiting for a glorious knight or queen to appear out of nowhere.
But hey, that's the stuff that fairy tales are made of, right? In the real world, all we're really guaranteed to have is right here, right now. So why not learn to love your life in this instant, instead of planning to celebrate when something better happens? You're here! That's reason enough to be happy. Now make the most of it - with or without royalty.
Fiction, fantasy or reality
Harry Potter is fantastic. So is Sex in the City, and Entourage - as entertainment, that is. Not as models for living your life. Reality TV aside, "reality" should reign. Why, you ask? Because it's real, it's experiential, and it is the one thing you can count on right now. While it's easy to get sucked into the "idea" of a perfect life - you know, the one you aspire to, read about and dream of - that doesn't work for embracing the moment. Especially when you start pontificating or obsessing about the "what if..." scenarios. These only convince you that all that jazz is a lot better than where you are in the present. Stop yourself from even going there in your head... before you float too far downstream.
Reality check
You can't cuddle with a fantasy, nor can you have stimulating conversation with your TV. Feeding your fantasy and fiction needs at the local Barnes and Noble is one thing, but when those urges get in the way of enjoying your "real" life, it's another matter entirely. If your life somehow feels like it doesn't measure up to the glamorous ideal you aspire to, it's time to turn off the boob tube, shut the glossy magazines and close your titillating novels. Waiting for your ideal ship to come in can mean a long and lonely wait, especially if it is at the expense of embracing "the now."
Ask yourself
Are you where you are? Or dreaming about where you hope to be? Find out by answering these questions:
1.Do you walk into a party, pan the room, and look for Mr./Ms. Right? When they don't appear, do you begin trolling websites on your iPhone, looking for the next "singles" event you can wedge yourself into, because this party is the pits?
2.On the day after landing your dream job, do you kick yourself for not asking for more money when you had the chance? Maybe you panic because your "dream" gig just turned into a dead-end job overnight, and then dive onto Monster.com to score a better one, stat!
3.Do you amp yourself up for a night on the town weeks before you head out the door, then, once you're at that hot new club, decide it is not quite hot enough - so you leave the scene swiftly and start searching for the next "it" place?
4.Have you been called a dreamer one too many times?
5.Do you cry when you see happily married people walking down the street, because you and your squeeze have not committed to life-long status yet? After all, you've got a rock-solid future, but maybe you could do better... ?
6.Are you constantly seeking out, sometimes maniacally, life's next buzz?
If you answered "yes" to just one of the above, or even flinched reading about it - it might be time for a little lesson in learning to love your life.
Stop, live and love
Take these steps to live in the now...
1."One day at a time" is not just for those suffering from addictions anymore. It's a mindset and way of life that everyone can benefit from - because it keeps you present. You can't change the past, and you really can't influence your future - but what you can do is make the present moment a good one.
2.Stop running, and start standing still. Notice and revel in what you're feeling right now. Maybe it's great, maybe it's not, but regardless what the feelings are, they will pass soon enough - so embrace them.
3.Wake up. Pick one thing that you love today. Maybe you and your hair woke up on the right side of the bed. The sun is shining, you still have a job, the dog isn't barking, the kids aren't crying, you have love in your life, the mail was delivered on time - whatever it is, big or small, notice the good that sits before you. If you can't come up with anything, choose to enjoy the still and calm nature of the moment.
4.Embrace your body. It is who you are, and it and you are fabulous exactly as you are.
5.Love something - anything, anyone.
6.Smile. Breath. Repeat. It's contagious!
Be happy in the shoes you are wearing. Embrace your place in life. Love yourself - now. Reality is good, exciting, tumultuous, exhilarating and infuriating. In all of its intensity, life is what you make it. Remember, it's up to you - in one simple choice.
Stay present in the present
by Christina Julian
Often times we find ourselves putting off the idea of enjoying our lives fully until such-and-such happens, or when so-and-so sweeps in to save us from our current life. And let's not forget the ever-popular, waiting for a glorious knight or queen to appear out of nowhere.
But hey, that's the stuff that fairy tales are made of, right? In the real world, all we're really guaranteed to have is right here, right now. So why not learn to love your life in this instant, instead of planning to celebrate when something better happens? You're here! That's reason enough to be happy. Now make the most of it - with or without royalty.
Fiction, fantasy or reality
Harry Potter is fantastic. So is Sex in the City, and Entourage - as entertainment, that is. Not as models for living your life. Reality TV aside, "reality" should reign. Why, you ask? Because it's real, it's experiential, and it is the one thing you can count on right now. While it's easy to get sucked into the "idea" of a perfect life - you know, the one you aspire to, read about and dream of - that doesn't work for embracing the moment. Especially when you start pontificating or obsessing about the "what if..." scenarios. These only convince you that all that jazz is a lot better than where you are in the present. Stop yourself from even going there in your head... before you float too far downstream.
Reality check
You can't cuddle with a fantasy, nor can you have stimulating conversation with your TV. Feeding your fantasy and fiction needs at the local Barnes and Noble is one thing, but when those urges get in the way of enjoying your "real" life, it's another matter entirely. If your life somehow feels like it doesn't measure up to the glamorous ideal you aspire to, it's time to turn off the boob tube, shut the glossy magazines and close your titillating novels. Waiting for your ideal ship to come in can mean a long and lonely wait, especially if it is at the expense of embracing "the now."
Ask yourself
Are you where you are? Or dreaming about where you hope to be? Find out by answering these questions:
1.Do you walk into a party, pan the room, and look for Mr./Ms. Right? When they don't appear, do you begin trolling websites on your iPhone, looking for the next "singles" event you can wedge yourself into, because this party is the pits?
2.On the day after landing your dream job, do you kick yourself for not asking for more money when you had the chance? Maybe you panic because your "dream" gig just turned into a dead-end job overnight, and then dive onto Monster.com to score a better one, stat!
3.Do you amp yourself up for a night on the town weeks before you head out the door, then, once you're at that hot new club, decide it is not quite hot enough - so you leave the scene swiftly and start searching for the next "it" place?
4.Have you been called a dreamer one too many times?
5.Do you cry when you see happily married people walking down the street, because you and your squeeze have not committed to life-long status yet? After all, you've got a rock-solid future, but maybe you could do better... ?
6.Are you constantly seeking out, sometimes maniacally, life's next buzz?
If you answered "yes" to just one of the above, or even flinched reading about it - it might be time for a little lesson in learning to love your life.
Stop, live and love
Take these steps to live in the now...
1."One day at a time" is not just for those suffering from addictions anymore. It's a mindset and way of life that everyone can benefit from - because it keeps you present. You can't change the past, and you really can't influence your future - but what you can do is make the present moment a good one.
2.Stop running, and start standing still. Notice and revel in what you're feeling right now. Maybe it's great, maybe it's not, but regardless what the feelings are, they will pass soon enough - so embrace them.
3.Wake up. Pick one thing that you love today. Maybe you and your hair woke up on the right side of the bed. The sun is shining, you still have a job, the dog isn't barking, the kids aren't crying, you have love in your life, the mail was delivered on time - whatever it is, big or small, notice the good that sits before you. If you can't come up with anything, choose to enjoy the still and calm nature of the moment.
4.Embrace your body. It is who you are, and it and you are fabulous exactly as you are.
5.Love something - anything, anyone.
6.Smile. Breath. Repeat. It's contagious!
Be happy in the shoes you are wearing. Embrace your place in life. Love yourself - now. Reality is good, exciting, tumultuous, exhilarating and infuriating. In all of its intensity, life is what you make it. Remember, it's up to you - in one simple choice.
Sunday, September 13, 2009
The Art Of Non-Attachment
The Art of Non-Attachment
Make it work for you!
by Jessalyn Marchal
Many spiritual books and meditations these days talk about incorporating the Buddhist art of non-attachment into our everyday lives as a means of relieving stress. For some, this process may bring up visions of having to give away all of your personal possessions and move to a mountaintop.
If that doesn't quite sound like the choice for you... don't worry. Practicing non-attachment doesn't mean that you stop wanting things - it means that you're open to what the Universe has to offer you, and the possibility that life can be different and better than you've imagined. Non-attachment teaches us how to get out of our own way and stop limiting the outcomes of our dreams, goals and wishes to our own constrained ideas.
Outcomes
Often when we really want something passionately, we attach a whole set of specifics to our dreams - including exactly what we want, and how we expect it to manifest itself. But when we do so, the art of non-attachment suggests that we have set ourselves up for suffering. Love is a great example - wanting love in your life is a beautiful desire. The struggle comes when we attach ourselves to the belief that a certain person offers the only path to achieving happiness in love. By practicing non-attachment you allow yourself to feel the desire, but you allow the Universe to bring it to you without dictating what package it comes in.
Resistance is futile
Along with non-attachment comes the idea that you are exactly where you need to be right now. Loosen up and relax into the flow of life - instead of struggling against the current. Eastern thought tells us that suffering is part of life - the human condition. By giving up the struggle, we free up huge amounts of energy that can be put to better uses.
This doesn't mean that difficult situations will not arise - but that they simply will not be as difficult because you're not fighting against them - you simply accept that these situations (the ones that create suffering) exist, and you will counter them as they unfold. We all know our parents will probably die before we do, but it doesn't mean that this looming suffering should interfere with enjoying every moment they are with us. By accepting the suffering that will come with their eventual deaths, we can then let that go and enjoy the moment more.
Monkey mind
Giving your full attention to what is right in front of you stops that "monkey mind" (those wild random incongruous thoughts) from interfering with your intentions. By living each moment as it comes (non-attachment), we allow ourselves to engage our higher Selves, which are more universally connected. If your next task is to wash the dishes, then feel the bubbles and plates and cutlery, smell the soap, and observe the details - instead of rushing through that chore to get to the next one. If you find your thoughts wandering to the future or the past, don't judge yourself - just notice the wandering, and gently return to the matter at hand. In this way each moment becomes a form of meditation, connecting us with ourselves and the universe. It is from this centered place that we birth our own enlightenment.
By making the choice to accept - rather than fight against - suffering, and not limiting your options, you'll achieve the healthy type of detachment. By leaving the particulars up to the Universe, you'll get to realize the freedom of unlimited potential, and live in the moment.
Make it work for you!
by Jessalyn Marchal
Many spiritual books and meditations these days talk about incorporating the Buddhist art of non-attachment into our everyday lives as a means of relieving stress. For some, this process may bring up visions of having to give away all of your personal possessions and move to a mountaintop.
If that doesn't quite sound like the choice for you... don't worry. Practicing non-attachment doesn't mean that you stop wanting things - it means that you're open to what the Universe has to offer you, and the possibility that life can be different and better than you've imagined. Non-attachment teaches us how to get out of our own way and stop limiting the outcomes of our dreams, goals and wishes to our own constrained ideas.
Outcomes
Often when we really want something passionately, we attach a whole set of specifics to our dreams - including exactly what we want, and how we expect it to manifest itself. But when we do so, the art of non-attachment suggests that we have set ourselves up for suffering. Love is a great example - wanting love in your life is a beautiful desire. The struggle comes when we attach ourselves to the belief that a certain person offers the only path to achieving happiness in love. By practicing non-attachment you allow yourself to feel the desire, but you allow the Universe to bring it to you without dictating what package it comes in.
Resistance is futile
Along with non-attachment comes the idea that you are exactly where you need to be right now. Loosen up and relax into the flow of life - instead of struggling against the current. Eastern thought tells us that suffering is part of life - the human condition. By giving up the struggle, we free up huge amounts of energy that can be put to better uses.
This doesn't mean that difficult situations will not arise - but that they simply will not be as difficult because you're not fighting against them - you simply accept that these situations (the ones that create suffering) exist, and you will counter them as they unfold. We all know our parents will probably die before we do, but it doesn't mean that this looming suffering should interfere with enjoying every moment they are with us. By accepting the suffering that will come with their eventual deaths, we can then let that go and enjoy the moment more.
Monkey mind
Giving your full attention to what is right in front of you stops that "monkey mind" (those wild random incongruous thoughts) from interfering with your intentions. By living each moment as it comes (non-attachment), we allow ourselves to engage our higher Selves, which are more universally connected. If your next task is to wash the dishes, then feel the bubbles and plates and cutlery, smell the soap, and observe the details - instead of rushing through that chore to get to the next one. If you find your thoughts wandering to the future or the past, don't judge yourself - just notice the wandering, and gently return to the matter at hand. In this way each moment becomes a form of meditation, connecting us with ourselves and the universe. It is from this centered place that we birth our own enlightenment.
By making the choice to accept - rather than fight against - suffering, and not limiting your options, you'll achieve the healthy type of detachment. By leaving the particulars up to the Universe, you'll get to realize the freedom of unlimited potential, and live in the moment.
Are You Expecting Too Much?
"The great obstacle to happiness is to expect too much happiness."
~ Bernard de Fontenelle
~ Bernard de Fontenelle
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Portion Distortion
Avoid Portion Distortion
Are you eating more than you think?
In 1979, a bottle of soda pop contained 6.5 ounces. Today, soft drinks come in a 20-ounce jug. It's called portion distortion, and experts say it's one reason behind America's obesity epidemic.
Are you eating more than you think?
In 1979, a bottle of soda pop contained 6.5 ounces. Today, soft drinks come in a 20-ounce jug. It's called portion distortion, and experts say it's one reason behind America's obesity epidemic.
Sunday, September 6, 2009
Buy the Book "Chakra Foods for Optimun Health"
A Must Read!, June 14, 2009
By Bryan Dudones (Jacksonville, FL) - See all my reviews
Dr. Minich's amazing book, Chakra Foods for Optimum Health, has really made it easier for me to understand the relationship between food and the body, mind and spirit. Her vast knowledge has helped me embrace a healthier lifestyle by making me more aware of what I eat. Help other customers find the most helpful reviews
Craving Chakra Foods Knowledge, June 12, 2009
By Jill Daniel "EmpoweredMom" (Los Angeles) - See all my reviews
Until I read this book, I never thought about the HOW of eating, only the WHAT. Deanna points to the equal importance and the studies behind who we're eating with and how the meal takes place. For example, she cites a study published in the New England Journal of Medicine from Drs. Christakis and Fowler. They demonstrated that patterns of body weight gain were directly connected to our social networks. What does that mean? The greater the connection an individual has with obese friends and family (even if miles apart), the larger the influence on he or she developing obesity. If you're emotionally close with overweight people, there is also a higher chance of you becoming obese. As a mom, this makes me thing about being in great shape for my kid's healthy future and my own too! This is only one of many amazing insights and studies presented in Chakra Foods. It will have you thinking about food in a whole new way, an empowering way.
the rainbow review, June 15, 2009
By A. Riner (Silverdale, WA United States) - See all my reviews
Deanna takes a wealth of knowledge and weaves it into an everything book. It is both educational and inspiring. Like the vibrational colors of the rainbow, she leads you on a journey to a pot of gold. You will become aware of new aspects and attributes of food that will empower your soul, energize your body and bring joy into living. The information is presented in easy to understand topics which lead directly to practical guides for applying these ideas into your life (including awesome recipes!) You will learn to look at food in a holistically new way!
Coach Sherrie says: She also talks about Rainbow Eating or eating all the colors in the rainbow. You can find this book on Amazon.
By Bryan Dudones (Jacksonville, FL) - See all my reviews
Dr. Minich's amazing book, Chakra Foods for Optimum Health, has really made it easier for me to understand the relationship between food and the body, mind and spirit. Her vast knowledge has helped me embrace a healthier lifestyle by making me more aware of what I eat. Help other customers find the most helpful reviews
Craving Chakra Foods Knowledge, June 12, 2009
By Jill Daniel "EmpoweredMom" (Los Angeles) - See all my reviews
Until I read this book, I never thought about the HOW of eating, only the WHAT. Deanna points to the equal importance and the studies behind who we're eating with and how the meal takes place. For example, she cites a study published in the New England Journal of Medicine from Drs. Christakis and Fowler. They demonstrated that patterns of body weight gain were directly connected to our social networks. What does that mean? The greater the connection an individual has with obese friends and family (even if miles apart), the larger the influence on he or she developing obesity. If you're emotionally close with overweight people, there is also a higher chance of you becoming obese. As a mom, this makes me thing about being in great shape for my kid's healthy future and my own too! This is only one of many amazing insights and studies presented in Chakra Foods. It will have you thinking about food in a whole new way, an empowering way.
the rainbow review, June 15, 2009
By A. Riner (Silverdale, WA United States) - See all my reviews
Deanna takes a wealth of knowledge and weaves it into an everything book. It is both educational and inspiring. Like the vibrational colors of the rainbow, she leads you on a journey to a pot of gold. You will become aware of new aspects and attributes of food that will empower your soul, energize your body and bring joy into living. The information is presented in easy to understand topics which lead directly to practical guides for applying these ideas into your life (including awesome recipes!) You will learn to look at food in a holistically new way!
Coach Sherrie says: She also talks about Rainbow Eating or eating all the colors in the rainbow. You can find this book on Amazon.
Attitude Makes the Difference
"A strong positive mental attitude will create more miracles than any wonder drug."
~ Patricia Neal
~ Patricia Neal
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
Embrace Uncertainty
Embrace Uncertainty
Give your life some wiggle room
by Adrianne Stone
Do we know anything for sure? When you really think about this question, it becomes rather daunting… especially in these hard economic times, when people are questioning whether anything really lasts. How can anyone ever know anything for sure? But some people do - at least, they think they do.
They brag about how they're positive that their risotto is the most authentic. Or that their job is the worst - or that their religious path, political candidate or favorite sports team is unparalleled. These are all intriguing, inspiring possibilities, but they are not absolutes.
Set in stone
Sometimes, it's necessary to reassess these supposedly proven ideals - and maybe modify them. Think about all the times this has happened to you. You were so sure that the apartment you rented was perfect, and then you outgrew it - and looked elsewhere to live. You thought the guy you'd been dating was the one you'd marry, start a family with and grow old with - only to break things off before you'd even walked down the aisle. Or perhaps you thought the career you'd chosen was the right one for you, only to stumble upon another one that made you feel more fulfilled. So what does all of this mean?
Escape clause
It's when you opened yourself to change that you wound up on a different (probably more suitable) path. Your life path should usually should be the path of least resistance - literally. Why put up brick walls that impede your progress? Without leaving yourself an escape clause - the option to change your mind (which is anyone's prerogative, right?) - you force yourself to stick to your guns, even when you realize it may not be what you ultimately want or need. This can be true of jobs, relationships, where you live - and even friends who are not good for you.
The more you know...
So maybe it's uncertainty itself that we need to embrace - the sense that you really can't be sure about "everything," because life is an ever-changing painting of many palettes. When you give in to this possibility, you open up your options. That movie/song/artwork that you've always claimed was your favorite may just be replaced by another one five years down the road. That vegan diet you've been following since your college years might open up to accept some cheese now and then, or your lifelong decision to never have children could just change once your biological clock starts ticking more loudly.
Living life in a mindset of "absolutes" instills a sense of rigidity that is often hard to escape. Why impose too many restrictions on yourself? It's all right to be almost sure about something - because that way you give yourself some wiggle room, in case your views alter.
An exercise...
Try this in a quiet moment. Make a list of 10 things that you're absolutely certain about. Now, being completely objective, review each item on the list, and honestly ask yourself what it would take for you to become less than certain about them. You're not being negative - just looking for an honest, hypothetical response. Do any of those responses seem plausible? If so, congratulations! You've just embraced uncertainty! Now there's less pressure to live up to a list of your own making.
You will feel a sense of freedom from this exercise, because you've just given yourself permission to live your life with a more open mind, less self-imposed stress, and the possibility of changing your path, if you so desire. Good luck!
Give your life some wiggle room
by Adrianne Stone
Do we know anything for sure? When you really think about this question, it becomes rather daunting… especially in these hard economic times, when people are questioning whether anything really lasts. How can anyone ever know anything for sure? But some people do - at least, they think they do.
They brag about how they're positive that their risotto is the most authentic. Or that their job is the worst - or that their religious path, political candidate or favorite sports team is unparalleled. These are all intriguing, inspiring possibilities, but they are not absolutes.
Set in stone
Sometimes, it's necessary to reassess these supposedly proven ideals - and maybe modify them. Think about all the times this has happened to you. You were so sure that the apartment you rented was perfect, and then you outgrew it - and looked elsewhere to live. You thought the guy you'd been dating was the one you'd marry, start a family with and grow old with - only to break things off before you'd even walked down the aisle. Or perhaps you thought the career you'd chosen was the right one for you, only to stumble upon another one that made you feel more fulfilled. So what does all of this mean?
Escape clause
It's when you opened yourself to change that you wound up on a different (probably more suitable) path. Your life path should usually should be the path of least resistance - literally. Why put up brick walls that impede your progress? Without leaving yourself an escape clause - the option to change your mind (which is anyone's prerogative, right?) - you force yourself to stick to your guns, even when you realize it may not be what you ultimately want or need. This can be true of jobs, relationships, where you live - and even friends who are not good for you.
The more you know...
So maybe it's uncertainty itself that we need to embrace - the sense that you really can't be sure about "everything," because life is an ever-changing painting of many palettes. When you give in to this possibility, you open up your options. That movie/song/artwork that you've always claimed was your favorite may just be replaced by another one five years down the road. That vegan diet you've been following since your college years might open up to accept some cheese now and then, or your lifelong decision to never have children could just change once your biological clock starts ticking more loudly.
Living life in a mindset of "absolutes" instills a sense of rigidity that is often hard to escape. Why impose too many restrictions on yourself? It's all right to be almost sure about something - because that way you give yourself some wiggle room, in case your views alter.
An exercise...
Try this in a quiet moment. Make a list of 10 things that you're absolutely certain about. Now, being completely objective, review each item on the list, and honestly ask yourself what it would take for you to become less than certain about them. You're not being negative - just looking for an honest, hypothetical response. Do any of those responses seem plausible? If so, congratulations! You've just embraced uncertainty! Now there's less pressure to live up to a list of your own making.
You will feel a sense of freedom from this exercise, because you've just given yourself permission to live your life with a more open mind, less self-imposed stress, and the possibility of changing your path, if you so desire. Good luck!
Sunday, August 30, 2009
Release
Release Negative Energy
Don't get bogged down
by Jen Tartaglione
You may not be aware of it, but sometimes that age-old adage is true: you are your own worst enemy. Oftentimes it's the subtle negative self-talk ("What if I can't..." "I am so stupid!" "I'll never be able to...") that clutters our minds and prevents us from seeing who we really are - and what we can truly accomplish.
Slippery slope
You know the story - it starts with one negative thought in a moment of weakness, and next thing you know, you're fretting about what might happen 20 years down the road! Well, here's a newsflash - even though you think you are master of your destiny and have control, there are too many variables out there. So why worry about what could happen? Focus on the now!
A really helpful book for these sorts of issues was written by a psychologist named Edmund J. Bourne. According to his seminal work, The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook, when it comes to negative thoughts, there tend to be four personality trends - the worrier, the critic, the victim and the perfectionist.
How to win
Think about situations that plague you - gas prices are hurting your wallet, your relationship is rocky, your job isn't your favorite place to be - and analyze your thought patterns. If you're a worrier, you'll want to concentrate on leaving your "what ifs" at the door. It's good to be prepared for a worst-case scenario, but apart from that, your excessive hypotheticals don't help anyone. If you're overly self-critical (critic) - sure, you may have made bad decisions in your life, but there is no reason to tell yourself you suck. Try something more positive - it will lift your mood. For the "why me" people (victim), think about how much you accomplish when you feel hopeless, and then think about how easy it is to rise to an occasion when you have a positive outlook. Perfectionists - you're not perfect. Your self-worth is not dependent on getting that "A."
Counterstrike!
Now that you've done some analyzing, write out your most worrisome issues, and include details on what bothers you most. Next, write out alternative arguments.
Situation: "What if my career and relationship go into a tailspin, and I can't do anything about it?"
Counter-argument: "I can breathe and take care of things one step at a time. Just because one thing looks difficult right now does not mean that all of my happiness will be in jeopardy."
Affirmations
Writing things out and recognizing patterns are the first steps toward recovery. Affirmations will help calm you, and keep you moving toward a positive future. Some general ones you might want to try include:
I can learn to cope with this, and with any difficulty life will bring.
I will not feed worry - I choose peace over fear.
I am a person of integrity and purpose.
I am lovable and capable.
My feelings and needs are important.
I don't have to be perfect to be loved.
And remember - to read more about eliminating those negative thoughts, check out The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook.
Don't get bogged down
by Jen Tartaglione
You may not be aware of it, but sometimes that age-old adage is true: you are your own worst enemy. Oftentimes it's the subtle negative self-talk ("What if I can't..." "I am so stupid!" "I'll never be able to...") that clutters our minds and prevents us from seeing who we really are - and what we can truly accomplish.
Slippery slope
You know the story - it starts with one negative thought in a moment of weakness, and next thing you know, you're fretting about what might happen 20 years down the road! Well, here's a newsflash - even though you think you are master of your destiny and have control, there are too many variables out there. So why worry about what could happen? Focus on the now!
A really helpful book for these sorts of issues was written by a psychologist named Edmund J. Bourne. According to his seminal work, The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook, when it comes to negative thoughts, there tend to be four personality trends - the worrier, the critic, the victim and the perfectionist.
How to win
Think about situations that plague you - gas prices are hurting your wallet, your relationship is rocky, your job isn't your favorite place to be - and analyze your thought patterns. If you're a worrier, you'll want to concentrate on leaving your "what ifs" at the door. It's good to be prepared for a worst-case scenario, but apart from that, your excessive hypotheticals don't help anyone. If you're overly self-critical (critic) - sure, you may have made bad decisions in your life, but there is no reason to tell yourself you suck. Try something more positive - it will lift your mood. For the "why me" people (victim), think about how much you accomplish when you feel hopeless, and then think about how easy it is to rise to an occasion when you have a positive outlook. Perfectionists - you're not perfect. Your self-worth is not dependent on getting that "A."
Counterstrike!
Now that you've done some analyzing, write out your most worrisome issues, and include details on what bothers you most. Next, write out alternative arguments.
Situation: "What if my career and relationship go into a tailspin, and I can't do anything about it?"
Counter-argument: "I can breathe and take care of things one step at a time. Just because one thing looks difficult right now does not mean that all of my happiness will be in jeopardy."
Affirmations
Writing things out and recognizing patterns are the first steps toward recovery. Affirmations will help calm you, and keep you moving toward a positive future. Some general ones you might want to try include:
I can learn to cope with this, and with any difficulty life will bring.
I will not feed worry - I choose peace over fear.
I am a person of integrity and purpose.
I am lovable and capable.
My feelings and needs are important.
I don't have to be perfect to be loved.
And remember - to read more about eliminating those negative thoughts, check out The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook.
Love Yourself Affirmations by Jamie Nishi
Love Yourself Affirmations
Tap into your pure goodness
by Jamie Nishi
One of the great lessons we have to learn in life is to love ourselves. On the surface, this sounds like a simple thing. How hard can it be to love yourself - to feel confident about your abilities and comfortable in your own skin, and to act in a way that is self-loving, rather than self-destructive? Most of us know it's much harder than it seems.
For instance, many of us put our own needs aside. Often, we are afraid to shine - as if we didn't have the right! We carry experiences and messages from the past that have ingrained into us feelings of unworthiness. Then we take on behaviors that reinforce those feelings. And yet we all have the desire to love - and to be loved. The love-impulse lives within us, and urges us to shine. It is our saving grace.
The development of self-love comes faster and more easily to some than to others, but it is something we all have to work toward and maintain. Even for those who have begun to grow into themselves, self-esteem can seem evanescent - one moment you feel good about yourself, and the next, something inside of you shifts, and those old feelings of inadequacy come bubbling to the surface. One tool that can help neutralize negative thoughts when they arise, and get you back on track, are positive affirmations - powerful statements that support self-love.
The naysayers
There are many who argue that simply saying "I am worthy" is not enough. In a 2008 study entitled "Positive Self-Statements: Power for Some, Peril for Others," it was revealed that while affirmations such as "I am a lovable person" were beneficial to people with high self-esteem, it made people with low self-esteem feel even worse about themselves. Among individuals with low self-esteem, telling themselves something they didn't believe only served to highlight their perceived flaws.
The believers
It makes sense that an affirmation you don't believe in will have very little power or resonance, and may actually heighten negative thoughts. The most powerful affirmations are the ones you do believe in. Just as powerful are the statements that inspire you to reach out for your greatest potential. For an affirmation to manifest in your life, it must resonate with you so strongly that the vibration from it can be carried forward into the way you behave in the world. These types of affirmations can have beneficial effects:
• They are important reminders when wrong thinking begins to cloud your vision.
• In times of need, they can help shift your focus from the negative to the positive.
• They have a centering and steadying power.
• They give you the courage needed to go forward into difficult or frightening territory.
How to use affirmations
Affirmations can be found just about anywhere - in books, movies, speeches, poems, conversations or websites. The first step is to write down affirmations when you find them. Keeping a record gives them a place in your life. You can try some of these other popular techniques to help weave the power of affirmations into your daily life:
• Post them in places where you will find them (fridge, mirror, cupboard, daily planner, wallet, notebook).
• Whether it's a good self-esteem day or a low self-esteem day, remind yourself of the affirmations that are important to you. Let them be part of your consciousness on a regular basis.
• Remember to call on the affirmations in times of need.
• You can say the affirmations to yourself silently - or out loud.
• Many people find that reciting an affirmation while looking at themselves in a mirror helps to reinforce its power.
• Meditate on the affirmation. Reflect on its meaning, and its importance in your life.
Powerful thoughts
Some of the most powerful affirmations will be the ones you write for yourself. These come straight from your own self-knowledge and self-love. But to get you inspired right now, maybe one of these affirmations will resound with you! This passage from Marianne Williamson's A Return to Love best describes our need for affirmations:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
Try these affirmations:
"Om Namah Shivaya" (I honor the God within me). - Siddha Yoga
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." - Eleanor Roosevelt
"What you think of me is none of my business." - Wayne Dyer
"What I am looking for is not out there, it is in me." - Helen Keller
"I have arrived. I am home. In the here. In the now. I am solid. I am free. In the ultimate I dwell." -Thich Nhat Hahn, from a walking meditation exercise (to help keep us centered in the present moment)
Tap into your pure goodness
by Jamie Nishi
One of the great lessons we have to learn in life is to love ourselves. On the surface, this sounds like a simple thing. How hard can it be to love yourself - to feel confident about your abilities and comfortable in your own skin, and to act in a way that is self-loving, rather than self-destructive? Most of us know it's much harder than it seems.
For instance, many of us put our own needs aside. Often, we are afraid to shine - as if we didn't have the right! We carry experiences and messages from the past that have ingrained into us feelings of unworthiness. Then we take on behaviors that reinforce those feelings. And yet we all have the desire to love - and to be loved. The love-impulse lives within us, and urges us to shine. It is our saving grace.
The development of self-love comes faster and more easily to some than to others, but it is something we all have to work toward and maintain. Even for those who have begun to grow into themselves, self-esteem can seem evanescent - one moment you feel good about yourself, and the next, something inside of you shifts, and those old feelings of inadequacy come bubbling to the surface. One tool that can help neutralize negative thoughts when they arise, and get you back on track, are positive affirmations - powerful statements that support self-love.
The naysayers
There are many who argue that simply saying "I am worthy" is not enough. In a 2008 study entitled "Positive Self-Statements: Power for Some, Peril for Others," it was revealed that while affirmations such as "I am a lovable person" were beneficial to people with high self-esteem, it made people with low self-esteem feel even worse about themselves. Among individuals with low self-esteem, telling themselves something they didn't believe only served to highlight their perceived flaws.
The believers
It makes sense that an affirmation you don't believe in will have very little power or resonance, and may actually heighten negative thoughts. The most powerful affirmations are the ones you do believe in. Just as powerful are the statements that inspire you to reach out for your greatest potential. For an affirmation to manifest in your life, it must resonate with you so strongly that the vibration from it can be carried forward into the way you behave in the world. These types of affirmations can have beneficial effects:
• They are important reminders when wrong thinking begins to cloud your vision.
• In times of need, they can help shift your focus from the negative to the positive.
• They have a centering and steadying power.
• They give you the courage needed to go forward into difficult or frightening territory.
How to use affirmations
Affirmations can be found just about anywhere - in books, movies, speeches, poems, conversations or websites. The first step is to write down affirmations when you find them. Keeping a record gives them a place in your life. You can try some of these other popular techniques to help weave the power of affirmations into your daily life:
• Post them in places where you will find them (fridge, mirror, cupboard, daily planner, wallet, notebook).
• Whether it's a good self-esteem day or a low self-esteem day, remind yourself of the affirmations that are important to you. Let them be part of your consciousness on a regular basis.
• Remember to call on the affirmations in times of need.
• You can say the affirmations to yourself silently - or out loud.
• Many people find that reciting an affirmation while looking at themselves in a mirror helps to reinforce its power.
• Meditate on the affirmation. Reflect on its meaning, and its importance in your life.
Powerful thoughts
Some of the most powerful affirmations will be the ones you write for yourself. These come straight from your own self-knowledge and self-love. But to get you inspired right now, maybe one of these affirmations will resound with you! This passage from Marianne Williamson's A Return to Love best describes our need for affirmations:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
Try these affirmations:
"Om Namah Shivaya" (I honor the God within me). - Siddha Yoga
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." - Eleanor Roosevelt
"What you think of me is none of my business." - Wayne Dyer
"What I am looking for is not out there, it is in me." - Helen Keller
"I have arrived. I am home. In the here. In the now. I am solid. I am free. In the ultimate I dwell." -Thich Nhat Hahn, from a walking meditation exercise (to help keep us centered in the present moment)
Friday, August 28, 2009
Happiness Is A Conscious Choice
"Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response."
~ Mildred Barthel
~ Mildred Barthel
Sunday, August 23, 2009
See the Opportunity In the Challenge!
"A challenge is an opportunity to grow spiritually. It will strengthen your soul and make you a better human being. Welcome this experience to let your spirit grow."
~ Sylvia Browne
~ Sylvia Browne
Saturday, August 22, 2009
"Instants" by Jorge Luis Borges
Instants
If I could live again my life,
In the next - I'll try,
- to make more mistakes,
I won't try to be so perfect,
I'll be more relaxed,
I'll be more full - than I am now,
In fact, I'll take fewer things seriously,
I'll be less hygenic,
I'll take more risks,
I'll take more trips,
I'll watch more sunsets,
I'll climb more mountains,
I'll swim more rivers,
I'll go to more places - I've never been,
I'll eat more ice creams and less (lime) beans,
I'll have more real problems - and less imaginary
ones,
I was one of those people who live
prudent and prolific lives -
each minute of his life,
Offcourse that I had moments of joy - but,
if I could go back I'll try to have only good moments,
If you don't know - thats what life is made of,
Don't lose the now!
I was one of those who never goes anywhere
without a thermometer,
without a hot-water bottle,
and without an umberella and without a parachute,
If I could live again - I will travel light,
If I could live again - I'll try to work bare feet
at the beginning of spring till
the end of autumn,
I'll ride more carts,
I'll watch more sunrises and play with more children,
If I have the life to live - but now I am 85,
- and I know that I am dying ...
Jorge Luis Borges
If I could live again my life,
In the next - I'll try,
- to make more mistakes,
I won't try to be so perfect,
I'll be more relaxed,
I'll be more full - than I am now,
In fact, I'll take fewer things seriously,
I'll be less hygenic,
I'll take more risks,
I'll take more trips,
I'll watch more sunsets,
I'll climb more mountains,
I'll swim more rivers,
I'll go to more places - I've never been,
I'll eat more ice creams and less (lime) beans,
I'll have more real problems - and less imaginary
ones,
I was one of those people who live
prudent and prolific lives -
each minute of his life,
Offcourse that I had moments of joy - but,
if I could go back I'll try to have only good moments,
If you don't know - thats what life is made of,
Don't lose the now!
I was one of those who never goes anywhere
without a thermometer,
without a hot-water bottle,
and without an umberella and without a parachute,
If I could live again - I will travel light,
If I could live again - I'll try to work bare feet
at the beginning of spring till
the end of autumn,
I'll ride more carts,
I'll watch more sunrises and play with more children,
If I have the life to live - but now I am 85,
- and I know that I am dying ...
Jorge Luis Borges
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
There Was No Diet!
I hate when I read "Try that Jennifer Aniston Diet." There was no diet!
~ Jennifer Aniston
~ Jennifer Aniston
Monday, August 17, 2009
Sunday, August 16, 2009
From Sprit.com "Building An Alter of Intention"
Building An Altar Of Intention
Building an altar of intention involves the fine art of building a shrine to what it is you really want in life. It is all about pouring your magical will into objects and then arranging them in a way that sends a message to the universe that you are willing to receive what you have asked for in the best way and at the proper time.
Altars of intention are very personal and idiosyncratic constructions. The key to them is to be as creative as possible and also to make sure that the objects that decorate them are suitable. You must add objects that represent your intentions or you might not quite get what you asked for.
It is also important to realize that you don’t need exotic items or precious ideals in order to make this shrine work for you. The simplest of food stuffs and everyday items will do to make a shrine of intention. You can also use pictures that you have cut out of the magazines or newspapers or download images from the Internet. Natural objects, such as flat rocks that you have picked up off the ground, leaves from trees, flower petals and other found items, also work well on an altar.
The tricky part is to make sure that what you are building towards and placing on the altar matches your intention. For instance, if the altar is about creating more money then put things on the altar that symbolize money, such as a bowl of coins, a check written to yourself for the desired amount, or pictures of prosperous individuals that you would like to emulate. You can also put gemstones, shells, and other natural items that were once used as currency on this type of altar.
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There is also no special ritual needed when it comes to building this type of altar, but some people like to say a few prayers or personal affirmations. It is also nice to put few candles or incense on the altar. Try to choose color candle combinations that suit your intentions. For instance, if prosperity is the intention, then try placing green, gold or silver candles on the altar. These types of colored candles are typically related to money drawing intentions and manifestation rituals.
If you want to light incense, you should choose aromas that are appropriate to your intention. Bayberry draws money. Rose incense is used to attract love. Patchouli is powerful incense for manifesting intentions of a more spiritual nature.
Herbs and flowers also enhance an altar. Real roses can bring love. Pansies and violets are money bringing blooms.
The upshot is the more personal your altar is the more likely the objects presented on it are to bring you exactly what you want. It is about purity of intent and putting your heart and will into it. It is also about certitude and believing that we live in a generous universe and that your wish will absolutely be granted to you.
Building an altar of intention involves the fine art of building a shrine to what it is you really want in life. It is all about pouring your magical will into objects and then arranging them in a way that sends a message to the universe that you are willing to receive what you have asked for in the best way and at the proper time.
Altars of intention are very personal and idiosyncratic constructions. The key to them is to be as creative as possible and also to make sure that the objects that decorate them are suitable. You must add objects that represent your intentions or you might not quite get what you asked for.
It is also important to realize that you don’t need exotic items or precious ideals in order to make this shrine work for you. The simplest of food stuffs and everyday items will do to make a shrine of intention. You can also use pictures that you have cut out of the magazines or newspapers or download images from the Internet. Natural objects, such as flat rocks that you have picked up off the ground, leaves from trees, flower petals and other found items, also work well on an altar.
The tricky part is to make sure that what you are building towards and placing on the altar matches your intention. For instance, if the altar is about creating more money then put things on the altar that symbolize money, such as a bowl of coins, a check written to yourself for the desired amount, or pictures of prosperous individuals that you would like to emulate. You can also put gemstones, shells, and other natural items that were once used as currency on this type of altar.
Looking for Guidance? Click Here or Call 1-888-745-0044 and take control of your future RIGHT now!
There is also no special ritual needed when it comes to building this type of altar, but some people like to say a few prayers or personal affirmations. It is also nice to put few candles or incense on the altar. Try to choose color candle combinations that suit your intentions. For instance, if prosperity is the intention, then try placing green, gold or silver candles on the altar. These types of colored candles are typically related to money drawing intentions and manifestation rituals.
If you want to light incense, you should choose aromas that are appropriate to your intention. Bayberry draws money. Rose incense is used to attract love. Patchouli is powerful incense for manifesting intentions of a more spiritual nature.
Herbs and flowers also enhance an altar. Real roses can bring love. Pansies and violets are money bringing blooms.
The upshot is the more personal your altar is the more likely the objects presented on it are to bring you exactly what you want. It is about purity of intent and putting your heart and will into it. It is also about certitude and believing that we live in a generous universe and that your wish will absolutely be granted to you.
Saturday, August 15, 2009
Take Up One Idea
“Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life - think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success, that is way great spiritual giants are produced.”
~ Swami Vivekanada
~ Swami Vivekanada
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Live Life On Purpose
“When your life is on course with its purpose, you are your most powerful. And you may stumble, but you will not fall.”
~Oprah
~Oprah
Monday, August 10, 2009
Jill Badonsky Tells How to Relax and Lose Weight
I had a mentor who was overweight for most of her life. Then she took up meditation. All of a sudden she was 40 pounds thinner. That was 10 years ago.. she’s still thin. I asked her how she did it.. she said, it was all through meditation.
When we are relaxed we are more in sync with our higher purposes, our higher intentions, our wisdom and our will. We are less at the mercy of automatic stress related behaviors. And the will comes easily, not with great effort. It comes because we are calmer and more in charge.
I encourage you to make meditation and guided imagery a part of your everyday experience. Explore it for a solid week beginning a few minutes at a time. Accept that your mind, like a monkey, will jump from thought to thought for awhile… Visualize your believing committee’s presence giving you comfort, accepting your struggles.
While those of you who got me your words and thoughts for individualized guided imageries are waiting for those.. use this: http://beansky.audioacrobat.com/download/2999966c-0e9b-1837-9a68-29e64c8614fc.mp3
You can download it to an MP3 player or burn it on a CD.
Also, if you haven’t played the guided imagery CD I sent in your intro package, give that a whirl. There’s also guided imageries by other people that you can download from i-tunes but be sure you preview them so you can tell whether you like the voice of the person talking.
When we are relaxed we are more in sync with our higher purposes, our higher intentions, our wisdom and our will. We are less at the mercy of automatic stress related behaviors. And the will comes easily, not with great effort. It comes because we are calmer and more in charge.
I encourage you to make meditation and guided imagery a part of your everyday experience. Explore it for a solid week beginning a few minutes at a time. Accept that your mind, like a monkey, will jump from thought to thought for awhile… Visualize your believing committee’s presence giving you comfort, accepting your struggles.
While those of you who got me your words and thoughts for individualized guided imageries are waiting for those.. use this: http://beansky.audioacrobat.com/download/2999966c-0e9b-1837-9a68-29e64c8614fc.mp3
You can download it to an MP3 player or burn it on a CD.
Also, if you haven’t played the guided imagery CD I sent in your intro package, give that a whirl. There’s also guided imageries by other people that you can download from i-tunes but be sure you preview them so you can tell whether you like the voice of the person talking.
Are You Eating the Right Foods?
How Sweet It Is (to Lose Weight)
By Nancy Gottesman
You've tried everything—low fat, high protein—but the pounds won't budge. One possibility: You're eating all the wrong foods. We explore the science (and stunning results) of a low-glycemic diet.
When LeeAnn Henn turned 12, extra pounds almost magically appeared on her frame. "I was always a little chunky," she says, "but right around puberty I put on a lot more." When she left her hometown of Sauk Prairie, Wisconsin, to attend the Massachusetts Institute of Technology in Cambridge, her weight problems went from bad to worse. Though she tried to cut calories and fat on a number of different diets over the years, the numbers on the scale just kept going up. "I'd eat less, exercise more, get frustrated, then quit," recalls Henn, now 28. "I could never lose much, and over time, I just got heavier."
By 2004, 5'10" Henn had reached 285 pounds. Obese and desperate for a solution, she responded to an ad about a weight loss study being conducted by the Harvard-affiliated Children's Hospital Boston. "I thought, 'It's a respectable, local hospital, and I'm not getting anywhere myself,'" she says. Henn's choice may have been made out of convenience, but it could not have been better for her particular weight problem.
The study was being run by David Ludwig, MD, PhD, director of the Optimal Weight for Life (OWL) program at the hospital and an associate professor of pediatrics at Harvard Medical School. He's one of a handful of researchers trying to prove that all calories are not, in fact, equal; some of us are genetically programmed to pile on pounds much faster when we eat the wrong type of food, even foods we think of as healthy.
For several decades, the science on weight loss has been a one-size-fits-all message that can be boiled down to this: Losing pounds is a matter of calories in versus calories out; you have to burn more energy than you take in. This resulted in the low-fat craze, since fat is far more calorically dense than protein or carbohydrates. But as the percentage of fat calories in the American diet declined, the obesity epidemic took off. "When you look at low-fat-diet studies," says Ludwig, "at best they show a modest short-term weight loss, with near total regain by a year's time."
Some people have found success with a low-fat approach. But in recent years, dieters have turned to low-carb, high-protein plans, which did work better than low-fat ones—for about six months. "Ultimately, there was weight regain," says Ludwig. He decided it was time to study an entirely new approach to weight loss—one that didn't single out fat, carbs, or protein but, rather, emphasized the proper combination of these nutrients.
To Find Out More…
If you want to learn about healthy ways to snack, whether a certain food is low or high glycemic, or what type of pasta to buy, check out these sources:
GlycemicIndex.com
This Web site is managed by the Human Nutrition Unit in the School of Molecular and Microbial Biosciences at the University of Sydney. You can use the free database to find the GI value of any food they've tested.
Coach Sherrie Says: I have to admit, I did go back to eating low-fat and started back on my Omega 3 capsules. After more than 6 months, I had not lost a single pound so it didn't make sense to contunue. I AM including more protein in my diet and continue to stay away from wheat products. That means using products that are NOT made with whole wheat flour either, but choosing the whole grain variety (many of these you will find in the freezer section as they have no additives or preservatives). I am also eating a lot more fruits and vegetables and I must admit I am LOVING IT! Food tastes wonderful these days!
By Nancy Gottesman
You've tried everything—low fat, high protein—but the pounds won't budge. One possibility: You're eating all the wrong foods. We explore the science (and stunning results) of a low-glycemic diet.
When LeeAnn Henn turned 12, extra pounds almost magically appeared on her frame. "I was always a little chunky," she says, "but right around puberty I put on a lot more." When she left her hometown of Sauk Prairie, Wisconsin, to attend the Massachusetts Institute of Technology in Cambridge, her weight problems went from bad to worse. Though she tried to cut calories and fat on a number of different diets over the years, the numbers on the scale just kept going up. "I'd eat less, exercise more, get frustrated, then quit," recalls Henn, now 28. "I could never lose much, and over time, I just got heavier."
By 2004, 5'10" Henn had reached 285 pounds. Obese and desperate for a solution, she responded to an ad about a weight loss study being conducted by the Harvard-affiliated Children's Hospital Boston. "I thought, 'It's a respectable, local hospital, and I'm not getting anywhere myself,'" she says. Henn's choice may have been made out of convenience, but it could not have been better for her particular weight problem.
The study was being run by David Ludwig, MD, PhD, director of the Optimal Weight for Life (OWL) program at the hospital and an associate professor of pediatrics at Harvard Medical School. He's one of a handful of researchers trying to prove that all calories are not, in fact, equal; some of us are genetically programmed to pile on pounds much faster when we eat the wrong type of food, even foods we think of as healthy.
For several decades, the science on weight loss has been a one-size-fits-all message that can be boiled down to this: Losing pounds is a matter of calories in versus calories out; you have to burn more energy than you take in. This resulted in the low-fat craze, since fat is far more calorically dense than protein or carbohydrates. But as the percentage of fat calories in the American diet declined, the obesity epidemic took off. "When you look at low-fat-diet studies," says Ludwig, "at best they show a modest short-term weight loss, with near total regain by a year's time."
Some people have found success with a low-fat approach. But in recent years, dieters have turned to low-carb, high-protein plans, which did work better than low-fat ones—for about six months. "Ultimately, there was weight regain," says Ludwig. He decided it was time to study an entirely new approach to weight loss—one that didn't single out fat, carbs, or protein but, rather, emphasized the proper combination of these nutrients.
To Find Out More…
If you want to learn about healthy ways to snack, whether a certain food is low or high glycemic, or what type of pasta to buy, check out these sources:
GlycemicIndex.com
This Web site is managed by the Human Nutrition Unit in the School of Molecular and Microbial Biosciences at the University of Sydney. You can use the free database to find the GI value of any food they've tested.
Coach Sherrie Says: I have to admit, I did go back to eating low-fat and started back on my Omega 3 capsules. After more than 6 months, I had not lost a single pound so it didn't make sense to contunue. I AM including more protein in my diet and continue to stay away from wheat products. That means using products that are NOT made with whole wheat flour either, but choosing the whole grain variety (many of these you will find in the freezer section as they have no additives or preservatives). I am also eating a lot more fruits and vegetables and I must admit I am LOVING IT! Food tastes wonderful these days!
Release Negative Energy With Positive Self-Talk
Release Negative Energy
Don't get bogged down
by Jen Tartaglione
You may not be aware of it, but sometimes that age-old adage is true: you are your own worst enemy. Oftentimes it's the subtle negative self-talk ("What if I can't..." "I am so stupid!" "I'll never be able to...") that clutters our minds and prevents us from seeing who we really are - and what we can truly accomplish.
Slippery slope
You know the story - it starts with one negative thought in a moment of weakness, and next thing you know, you're fretting about what might happen 20 years down the road! Well, here's a newsflash - even though you think you are master of your destiny and have control, there are too many variables out there. So why worry about what could happen? Focus on the now!
A really helpful book for these sorts of issues was written by a psychologist named Edmund J. Bourne. According to his seminal work, The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook, when it comes to negative thoughts, there tend to be four personality trends - the worrier, the critic, the victim and the perfectionist.
How to win
Think about situations that plague you - gas prices are hurting your wallet, your relationship is rocky, your job isn't your favorite place to be - and analyze your thought patterns. If you're a worrier, you'll want to leave your "what ifs" at the door. It's good to be prepared for a worst-case scenario, but apart from that your excessive hypotheticals don't help anyone. If you're overly self-critical (critic) - sure, you may have made bad decisions in your life, but there is no reason to tell yourself you suck. Try something more positive - it will lift your mood. For the "why me" people (victim), think about how much you accomplish when you feel hopeless, and then think about how easy it is to rise to an occasion when you have a positive outlook. Perfectionists - you're not perfect. Your self-worth is not dependent on getting that "A."
Counterstrike!
Now that you've done some analyzing, write out your most worrisome issues and include details on what bothers you most. Next, write out alternative arguments.
Situation: "What if my career and relationship go into a tailspin, and I can't do anything about it?"
Counter-argument: "I can breathe and take care of things one step at a time. Just because one thing looks difficult right now does not mean that all of my happiness will be in jeopardy."
Affirmations
Writing things out and recognizing patterns are the first steps toward recovery. Affirmations will help calm you, and keep you moving toward a positive future. Some general ones you might want to try include:
I can learn to cope with this, and with any difficulty life brings.
I will not feed worry - I choose peace over fear.
I am a person of integrity and purpose.
I am lovable and capable.
My feelings and needs are important.
I don't have to be perfect to be loved.
And remember - to read more about eliminating those negative thoughts, check out The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook.
Coach Sherrie Says: I learned to stop Negative Self-Talk and begin doing Positive Self-Talk from a different author many years ago, but I can tell you that it definitely works. Of course, the more your brain has gotten accustomed to repeating the negative words that you've heard over the years, the longer it will take. I am a testament though, that it is worth spending however long it takes: I would not have a wonderful husband and a great home, having just finished my MFA and a novel IF IT WEREN'T for turning around that self-talk. I would be stucj in a very miserable life.
Don't get bogged down
by Jen Tartaglione
You may not be aware of it, but sometimes that age-old adage is true: you are your own worst enemy. Oftentimes it's the subtle negative self-talk ("What if I can't..." "I am so stupid!" "I'll never be able to...") that clutters our minds and prevents us from seeing who we really are - and what we can truly accomplish.
Slippery slope
You know the story - it starts with one negative thought in a moment of weakness, and next thing you know, you're fretting about what might happen 20 years down the road! Well, here's a newsflash - even though you think you are master of your destiny and have control, there are too many variables out there. So why worry about what could happen? Focus on the now!
A really helpful book for these sorts of issues was written by a psychologist named Edmund J. Bourne. According to his seminal work, The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook, when it comes to negative thoughts, there tend to be four personality trends - the worrier, the critic, the victim and the perfectionist.
How to win
Think about situations that plague you - gas prices are hurting your wallet, your relationship is rocky, your job isn't your favorite place to be - and analyze your thought patterns. If you're a worrier, you'll want to leave your "what ifs" at the door. It's good to be prepared for a worst-case scenario, but apart from that your excessive hypotheticals don't help anyone. If you're overly self-critical (critic) - sure, you may have made bad decisions in your life, but there is no reason to tell yourself you suck. Try something more positive - it will lift your mood. For the "why me" people (victim), think about how much you accomplish when you feel hopeless, and then think about how easy it is to rise to an occasion when you have a positive outlook. Perfectionists - you're not perfect. Your self-worth is not dependent on getting that "A."
Counterstrike!
Now that you've done some analyzing, write out your most worrisome issues and include details on what bothers you most. Next, write out alternative arguments.
Situation: "What if my career and relationship go into a tailspin, and I can't do anything about it?"
Counter-argument: "I can breathe and take care of things one step at a time. Just because one thing looks difficult right now does not mean that all of my happiness will be in jeopardy."
Affirmations
Writing things out and recognizing patterns are the first steps toward recovery. Affirmations will help calm you, and keep you moving toward a positive future. Some general ones you might want to try include:
I can learn to cope with this, and with any difficulty life brings.
I will not feed worry - I choose peace over fear.
I am a person of integrity and purpose.
I am lovable and capable.
My feelings and needs are important.
I don't have to be perfect to be loved.
And remember - to read more about eliminating those negative thoughts, check out The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook.
Coach Sherrie Says: I learned to stop Negative Self-Talk and begin doing Positive Self-Talk from a different author many years ago, but I can tell you that it definitely works. Of course, the more your brain has gotten accustomed to repeating the negative words that you've heard over the years, the longer it will take. I am a testament though, that it is worth spending however long it takes: I would not have a wonderful husband and a great home, having just finished my MFA and a novel IF IT WEREN'T for turning around that self-talk. I would be stucj in a very miserable life.
Sunday, August 9, 2009
Live A More Serene Life
7 Spiritual Steps to Reduce Stress:
1. Alter your routine
Take a different route home after work, and stop to discover a new neighborhood or a scenic spot before you head back to the house. Decompress with a walk or a stroll - you might even go window-shopping. Moving your muscles a bit while you see the world from a different angle is a quick way to create some mental calm.
2. List your concerns
If you're one to awaken nightly with a worry-filled head, try writing down your concerns immediately. Spend a few minutes each evening listing your grievances with the world. Write down everything - especially the small things - like being bothered by a cold sore, a new blemish, or a few new gray hairs. You'll notice that giving yourself a place to vent will make your nights and days go by much more smoothly.
3. Be thankful
Start each day by reminding yourself what it is that you're thankful for. If your body is in good working condition, be grateful for that. If you have many loved ones, be thankful for that. If you enjoy your job, remember that blessing. Embracing thoughts of gratitude leaves little time for negativity.
4. Shift your consciousness
Find the good in everything. Another rainy day? Think of the gorgeous flowers that will result. A smaller yearly bonus due to the economy? Remind yourself that you're lucky to have a job! Simply put, thinking positively makes you happier. Do you tend to get the Monday blues on Sunday night? Flip your thinking, and schedule a regular event on that Sunday night - watch Masterpiece Theater, or have friends over for a weekly scheduled dinner or to play a board game.
5. Use visions of happiness
Gather some photos of that gorgeous beach from your island vacation, or your puppy's adorable face or your best friends - and post them at home or in your workstation. You need only look at them to take you to a happy place in your mind. Hold on to that feeling - and you'll feel your stress melt away. Esther M. Sternberg, M.D., the author of Healing Spaces: The Science & Place of Well Being, suggests choosing a pleasing desktop visual as your computer wallpaper - one of sweeping vistas such as green mountains against a blue sky dotted with puffy clouds, or maybe a beautiful sunset. A nice view, she says, triggers positive brain responses.
6. Change up your play list
Create a mellower playlist by loading your iPod with songs that you find relaxing or inspirational. Music with a slower or meditative beat can move your attention inward - and away from the everyday rush of chaotic events and thoughts.
7. Meditate
Last but not least, even taking five minutes a day to sit still, close your eyes and breath deeply can change your life. Anything that puts you into a gently contemplative state will relax you and take you to a higher level of consciousness.
If nothing else, when life is overwhelming, give your mind, body and spirit a break - even if it's just by making a conscious effort to breathe in and out, deeply and slowly. Directing your attention away from the things that are worrying you is always a powerful restorative during stressful times.
1. Alter your routine
Take a different route home after work, and stop to discover a new neighborhood or a scenic spot before you head back to the house. Decompress with a walk or a stroll - you might even go window-shopping. Moving your muscles a bit while you see the world from a different angle is a quick way to create some mental calm.
2. List your concerns
If you're one to awaken nightly with a worry-filled head, try writing down your concerns immediately. Spend a few minutes each evening listing your grievances with the world. Write down everything - especially the small things - like being bothered by a cold sore, a new blemish, or a few new gray hairs. You'll notice that giving yourself a place to vent will make your nights and days go by much more smoothly.
3. Be thankful
Start each day by reminding yourself what it is that you're thankful for. If your body is in good working condition, be grateful for that. If you have many loved ones, be thankful for that. If you enjoy your job, remember that blessing. Embracing thoughts of gratitude leaves little time for negativity.
4. Shift your consciousness
Find the good in everything. Another rainy day? Think of the gorgeous flowers that will result. A smaller yearly bonus due to the economy? Remind yourself that you're lucky to have a job! Simply put, thinking positively makes you happier. Do you tend to get the Monday blues on Sunday night? Flip your thinking, and schedule a regular event on that Sunday night - watch Masterpiece Theater, or have friends over for a weekly scheduled dinner or to play a board game.
5. Use visions of happiness
Gather some photos of that gorgeous beach from your island vacation, or your puppy's adorable face or your best friends - and post them at home or in your workstation. You need only look at them to take you to a happy place in your mind. Hold on to that feeling - and you'll feel your stress melt away. Esther M. Sternberg, M.D., the author of Healing Spaces: The Science & Place of Well Being, suggests choosing a pleasing desktop visual as your computer wallpaper - one of sweeping vistas such as green mountains against a blue sky dotted with puffy clouds, or maybe a beautiful sunset. A nice view, she says, triggers positive brain responses.
6. Change up your play list
Create a mellower playlist by loading your iPod with songs that you find relaxing or inspirational. Music with a slower or meditative beat can move your attention inward - and away from the everyday rush of chaotic events and thoughts.
7. Meditate
Last but not least, even taking five minutes a day to sit still, close your eyes and breath deeply can change your life. Anything that puts you into a gently contemplative state will relax you and take you to a higher level of consciousness.
If nothing else, when life is overwhelming, give your mind, body and spirit a break - even if it's just by making a conscious effort to breathe in and out, deeply and slowly. Directing your attention away from the things that are worrying you is always a powerful restorative during stressful times.
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Growing Your Own Food
“I'm in awe every time: By planting so little,
you can reap so much.”
~ Oprah
Coach Sherrie says: I started my new organic gardening late so I'm just starting to get some wonderful home-grown food. What a great way to eat healthy! And savor the fruits of your labor!
you can reap so much.”
~ Oprah
Coach Sherrie says: I started my new organic gardening late so I'm just starting to get some wonderful home-grown food. What a great way to eat healthy! And savor the fruits of your labor!
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
What Is Your Life Philosophy?
The meaning of life is to give life meaning
Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.
Life Philosophy of John Wooden
Even a fool knows you can't reach the stars,
but that doesn't stop a wiseman from trying.
"You can't make someone else's choices.
You shouldn't let someone else make yours."
Life Philosophy of Gen. Colin
Powell
Man is not the creature of circumstances,
circumstances are the creatures of men.
We are free agents, and man is more powerful than matter.
Life Philosophy of Benjamin Disraeli
When an affliction happens to you, you either let it defeat you,
or you defeat it...
Life Philosophy of Rosalind Russell
A life lived in fear is a life half lived.
To live a creative life, we must lose
our fear of being wrong.
"It is better to be hated for what you are
then to be loved for what your not"
There are always two choices. Two paths to take.
One is easy. And its only reward is that it's easy.
Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.
Life Philosophy of Zig Ziglar
You will never achieve what you never begin...
The measure of a man is the way he bears up under misfortune.
Don't wait for your ship to come in, swim out to it.
Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.
Philosophy of Life by Andre Gide
If one seeks advice, give them direction, not correction.
Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can.
Philosophy of Life by Richard Bach
Do the things you know, and you shall learn the truth you need to know.
Philosophy of Life by George Macdonald
Let us not be content to wait and see what will happen,
but give us the determination to make the right things happen.
Philosophy of Life by Peter Marshall
It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.
Don't take life too seriously. no one gets out alive, anyways.
Before you talk about what you want - appreciate what you have.
A man either lives life as it happens to him, meets it head-on and licks it,
or he turns his back on it and starts to wither away.
Life Philosophy from Gene Roddenberry
You see, in life, lots of people know what to do,
but few people actually do what they know.
Knowing is not enough! You must take action.
Life Philosophy from Anthony
Robbins
If you believe you can, you probably can.
If you believe you won't, you most assuredly won't.
Belief is the ignition switch that gets you off the launching pad.
Life Philosophy from Denis
Waitley
You can do what you think you can do and you cannot do what you think you cannot
Life Philosophy from Ben Stein
Find something you love to do
and you'll never have to work a day in your life.
Life Philosophy from Harvey Mackay
You can do what you want to do. You can be what you want to be.
Life Philosophy from R. David Thomas
What is your life philosophy?
Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.
Life Philosophy of John Wooden
Even a fool knows you can't reach the stars,
but that doesn't stop a wiseman from trying.
"You can't make someone else's choices.
You shouldn't let someone else make yours."
Life Philosophy of Gen. Colin
Powell
Man is not the creature of circumstances,
circumstances are the creatures of men.
We are free agents, and man is more powerful than matter.
Life Philosophy of Benjamin Disraeli
When an affliction happens to you, you either let it defeat you,
or you defeat it...
Life Philosophy of Rosalind Russell
A life lived in fear is a life half lived.
To live a creative life, we must lose
our fear of being wrong.
"It is better to be hated for what you are
then to be loved for what your not"
There are always two choices. Two paths to take.
One is easy. And its only reward is that it's easy.
Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.
Life Philosophy of Zig Ziglar
You will never achieve what you never begin...
The measure of a man is the way he bears up under misfortune.
Don't wait for your ship to come in, swim out to it.
Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.
Philosophy of Life by Andre Gide
If one seeks advice, give them direction, not correction.
Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can.
Philosophy of Life by Richard Bach
Do the things you know, and you shall learn the truth you need to know.
Philosophy of Life by George Macdonald
Let us not be content to wait and see what will happen,
but give us the determination to make the right things happen.
Philosophy of Life by Peter Marshall
It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.
Don't take life too seriously. no one gets out alive, anyways.
Before you talk about what you want - appreciate what you have.
A man either lives life as it happens to him, meets it head-on and licks it,
or he turns his back on it and starts to wither away.
Life Philosophy from Gene Roddenberry
You see, in life, lots of people know what to do,
but few people actually do what they know.
Knowing is not enough! You must take action.
Life Philosophy from Anthony
Robbins
If you believe you can, you probably can.
If you believe you won't, you most assuredly won't.
Belief is the ignition switch that gets you off the launching pad.
Life Philosophy from Denis
Waitley
You can do what you think you can do and you cannot do what you think you cannot
Life Philosophy from Ben Stein
Find something you love to do
and you'll never have to work a day in your life.
Life Philosophy from Harvey Mackay
You can do what you want to do. You can be what you want to be.
Life Philosophy from R. David Thomas
What is your life philosophy?
Wisdom Comes From the Journey
"We don't receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that
no one can take for us or spare us." ~ Marcel Proust
no one can take for us or spare us." ~ Marcel Proust
Saturday, August 1, 2009
90 Salads in 90 Days
90 Salads in 90 Days
For Foodie Friday, we turn to our Everyday Ethics blog sister Hillary Fields to congratulate her on her smart, healthy "90 Salads in 90 Days" program, which was published on The Huffington Post this week. Welcome to the leafy green world, Hillary!
Here were Hillary's 12 rules of salad indoctrination, created to support her efforts as a self-described carnivore and a "junk food junkie":
1. I'd prepare, purchase or order a salad every day for 3 months (and eat it).
2. If I for some reason ate two salads on a given day (unimaginable to me at first) I did not have license to skip the next day's. It just meant good salad karma.
3. If, on the other hand, I missed a day (and I'd really make an effort not to), I'd have to double up the next.
4. A salad would be defined as something primarily, though not necessarily exclusively, composed of leaves and veggies. A fruit salad would be a pretty bogus substitute (since I already loved fruit), and one I should feel very, very wussy about if I chose to count it.
5. A stir-fry could, at need, constitute a legitimate salad because, as a friend of mine put it, it's really just "hot salad."
6. Mayo-coated monstrosities such as potato, pasta, or chicken salad would not count. (This was not a problem for me because I hate all three with the fire of a thousand suns.)
7. Dressing could be as much or as little as I liked (again not a problem because I mostly like only a little).
8. In order to "count," the day's salad should be bigger than an appetizer size if at all possible, and gigantic when feasible.
9. Organic greens are vastly preferable but not obligatory - any roughage will do in a pinch. [FRIENDLY FRESH LIVING ADVICE - lettuce and other greens are on the "dirty dozen" list of produce that holds the most residual pesticides. So really reeeeally try to go organic!]
10. It's okay to eat the same kind of salad day after day if I want to - whatever works!
11. Nuts and cheese are also ok, in moderation - gotta make it palatable somehow.
12. No whining.
Kudos are in order, she did it! And she learned a lot, including how her energy level shot up as she consumed more raw vitamins. Inspired, I have 2 salad tips of my own to add:
1. Consider Making Greens Optional - beets, walnuts, and a crumble of goat cheese totally count as salad in my book! Also, when you add lean proteins (lentils offer a complete protein, don't forget!) to salads, they easily become healthy, balanced meals.
2. Always Think Seasonally - last night, I chunked up some fresh farmer's market tomatoes, a tender cucumber, and a handful of chopped parsley, mint, basil, and dill for an herby, summery delight. Drizzle of olive soil, sprinkle of red wine vinegar, et voila! No greens AND all about eating with the seasons!
Share your salad tips, your most original salad creations, and please join me in a salad-y shout-out to Hillary!
(Original article came from: http://blog.beliefnet.com/everydayethics/2009/07/a-wee-bit-of-unethical-self-promotion-hillarys-in-the-huffington-post.html)
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For Foodie Friday, we turn to our Everyday Ethics blog sister Hillary Fields to congratulate her on her smart, healthy "90 Salads in 90 Days" program, which was published on The Huffington Post this week. Welcome to the leafy green world, Hillary!
Here were Hillary's 12 rules of salad indoctrination, created to support her efforts as a self-described carnivore and a "junk food junkie":
1. I'd prepare, purchase or order a salad every day for 3 months (and eat it).
2. If I for some reason ate two salads on a given day (unimaginable to me at first) I did not have license to skip the next day's. It just meant good salad karma.
3. If, on the other hand, I missed a day (and I'd really make an effort not to), I'd have to double up the next.
4. A salad would be defined as something primarily, though not necessarily exclusively, composed of leaves and veggies. A fruit salad would be a pretty bogus substitute (since I already loved fruit), and one I should feel very, very wussy about if I chose to count it.
5. A stir-fry could, at need, constitute a legitimate salad because, as a friend of mine put it, it's really just "hot salad."
6. Mayo-coated monstrosities such as potato, pasta, or chicken salad would not count. (This was not a problem for me because I hate all three with the fire of a thousand suns.)
7. Dressing could be as much or as little as I liked (again not a problem because I mostly like only a little).
8. In order to "count," the day's salad should be bigger than an appetizer size if at all possible, and gigantic when feasible.
9. Organic greens are vastly preferable but not obligatory - any roughage will do in a pinch. [FRIENDLY FRESH LIVING ADVICE - lettuce and other greens are on the "dirty dozen" list of produce that holds the most residual pesticides. So really reeeeally try to go organic!]
10. It's okay to eat the same kind of salad day after day if I want to - whatever works!
11. Nuts and cheese are also ok, in moderation - gotta make it palatable somehow.
12. No whining.
Kudos are in order, she did it! And she learned a lot, including how her energy level shot up as she consumed more raw vitamins. Inspired, I have 2 salad tips of my own to add:
1. Consider Making Greens Optional - beets, walnuts, and a crumble of goat cheese totally count as salad in my book! Also, when you add lean proteins (lentils offer a complete protein, don't forget!) to salads, they easily become healthy, balanced meals.
2. Always Think Seasonally - last night, I chunked up some fresh farmer's market tomatoes, a tender cucumber, and a handful of chopped parsley, mint, basil, and dill for an herby, summery delight. Drizzle of olive soil, sprinkle of red wine vinegar, et voila! No greens AND all about eating with the seasons!
Share your salad tips, your most original salad creations, and please join me in a salad-y shout-out to Hillary!
(Original article came from: http://blog.beliefnet.com/everydayethics/2009/07/a-wee-bit-of-unethical-self-promotion-hillarys-in-the-huffington-post.html)
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Wednesday, July 29, 2009
17 Ways to Love Yourself
How To Love Yourself In 17 Ways
by Evelyn on March 20, 2008
I’ve compiled a list on how to love yourself for readers who are facing difficulty knowing what to do in boosting their own self esteem. When I first began to be aware that I need to love myself first, before I can develop any meaningful relationships with others, I realised that I did not know where to start.
This was a surprise to me then as I would have thought I’d be an expert on love and relationships by then. After all, as I recalled, in my younger days, I’ve spent much time looking for the best spouse or romantic partner. But I soon realised that my search was meant to fill the void or emptiness I had inside. Finding a good relationship with myself seemed to be an even harder task! However, as things turned out, I realised that I failed miserably in my early relationships because I had insufficient or little self love.
If you’ve suffered from low self esteem, then it goes to show that you are lacking in self love. You may even find it difficult to even search your heart for that little bit of love you have for yourself. I dare say that your mind has been so ingrained with self sabotaging thoughts for the longest time, that loving yourself sounds unnatural to you.
However, nothing is going to happen if you do not make a conscious decision. And that includes Attracting Abundance. When you don’t love yourself, you are basically telling the Universe that you are unworthy or undeserving of any love or positive outcomes that have the same vibrational match as love.
Learning to love yourself starts with making a conscious decision, an intention to become happy and lead a fulfilled life. When you do not love yourself and suffer from low self esteem, you can find that it impossible to ever reach the potential that you suspect you have.
“Love yourself first and everything falls into line.”
Lucille Ball quotes (American radio and motion-picture actress and comedy star, 1911-1989)
When you make a decision to love yourself, you are really saying that you want to come alive. You accept that you are responsible for the outcomes that you experience in your life and would like yourself to shine from living a fulfilling life.
So if you’ve decided on loving yourself but are as equally stumped on how to love yourself, as I was back then, here are 17 ways which I believe can be helpful:
1. Fall in love with yourself. Think about what makes you You. Just like a flower that needs watering to grow, learn to nurture yourself in every way. Love yourself for all the good that you see and accept your flaws and the fact that you are imperfect. This does not meant that you do not learn to change from your shortcomings; instead, you are being gentle and kind to yourself for all your flaws. Look in the mirror and fall in love with the reflection that is You.
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”
Oscar Wilde quotes (Irish Poet, Novelist, Dramatist and Critic, 1854-1900)
2. Eliminate Self Criticism. Do you often berate yourself over the tiniest thing? Is there a little voice inside your head that often tells you that you are no good because you are stupid or make mistakes. If you find that you criticise yourself often, make an effort to stop the self criticism.
“I CAN is 100 times more important than IQ.” — unknown
3. Be Kind And Positive. When you start to think kindly and positively about yourself, the love you have for yourself just grows. Make it a habit to praise yourself everyday, while in the front of the mirror. Because of such thoughts, you naturally undertake empowering actions that support your development.
4. Acknowledge Your Effort. It’s not always about winning or having success in everything that you do. Many times, it is the effort that counts! Acknowledge that you’ve done your best, even if you have failed to produce tangible results.
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5. Let Go Of Worry. Loving yourself requires you to let go of your worry. It is a horrible way to live a life filled with constant worrying. I can attest to that! Worry does not help in any way. It cannot, on its own, make things happen. Only wise actions can! So instead of worrying, spend time thinking about what you can do to help in the situation. If the situation is beyond your control, then ask the Universe for your desired outcome and let things work out on their own. Things will come to be, if they are meant to be.
“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.” — Epictetus quotes (Greek philosopher associated with the Stoics, AD 55-c.135)
6. Trust Yourself. Have confidence in your abilities. Know that you have the ability to make important changes for yourself, for as long as you put your heart to it. You can also support yourself by visualizing desired outcomes.
“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”
Benjamin Spock quotes (American Pediatrician and Author, 1903-1998)
7. Forgive Yourself. If you have made mistakes in the past that had caused you to feel less worthy, then you need to forgive yourself. All of us make mistakes; so there really is no need to beat yourself up over them. Or if you’ve been carrying around a baggage of emotional hurt because of a childhood trauma, learn to forgive yourself that it is not your fault.
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”
Lewis B. Smedes quotes
8. Be Truthful To Yourself. Loving yourself requires you to be truthful about your own feelings. If you are happy, acknowledge the joy. If you are sad, acknowledge the sorrow. When you are truthful about your feelings, you do not try to lie to yourself or seek to bury your negative emotions. Instead, acknowledging what you feel provides a good guide to what your thoughts are. And as we all know, thoughts can be changed, so that healing and self growth can take place.
9. Grow Spiritually. When you spend time growing spiritually, loving yourself is an automatic thing. You become more peaceful, connected, kind, loving and compassionate. You nurture a mind that grows more beautiful by the day. How to not love yourself in the process?
10. Make Positive Affirmations Everyday. Post affirmations that can help raise your self esteem everyday. For instance, say this to yourself “I love and accept myself completely and unconditionally.” Read your affirmations out loud several times a day.
11. Express Gratitude. Express gratitude for the person that you are. For instance, cultivate an appreciation for your strengths and gifts. Also, feel a sense of gratitude that you are alive and well, and fully capable of making a difference in your life.
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12. Nurture Your Dreams. Why deny yourself your dreams? When you nurture your dreams, you would love the life that you are leading. Every moment that you live is a joy because you are expressing yourself fully.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. —Mark Twain
13. Boost Your Self Confidence. Make a deliberate attempt to look for opportunities that can help improve your sense of Self. For instance, if you are particularly good at doing something, set aside more time to indulge and improve your skills on it. Knowing that you have particular gifts can boost your self esteem.
14. Relax. You need to give yourself space to take breaks every now and then. If you spend your time working, without paying attention to your health, it also means that you do not love yourself well enough to take care of your own body. Fill your time with silence, soothing music and visions of beauty; anything that nourishes your Soul.
15. Have Fun. Inject some fun into your life. Life is meant to be an enjoyable. Don’t take life or yourself too seriously. If you can think of life in this manner, you automatically relax and quit worrying over things that do not matter.
16. Look After Your Body. It is important that you strengthen yourself with proper nutrition and regular exercise. Your body is a temple and you should treat it with respect, love and care. It has been found that the lack of self love is often the root causes of conditions like eating disorders, obesity or even terminal diseases.
“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.”
Jim Rohn quotes (American Speaker and Author. He is famous for motivational audio programs for Business and Life. )
17. Learn To See Beauty. When you learn to see beauty in every thing, you will also see beauty in yourself. Hence, stop to smell the flowers. Notice everything. Feel everything. The pink blush of the flowers in your garden, the greeness of the plains, the whisper of the gentle wind, or the myraid hues of an evening sky.
by Evelyn on March 20, 2008
I’ve compiled a list on how to love yourself for readers who are facing difficulty knowing what to do in boosting their own self esteem. When I first began to be aware that I need to love myself first, before I can develop any meaningful relationships with others, I realised that I did not know where to start.
This was a surprise to me then as I would have thought I’d be an expert on love and relationships by then. After all, as I recalled, in my younger days, I’ve spent much time looking for the best spouse or romantic partner. But I soon realised that my search was meant to fill the void or emptiness I had inside. Finding a good relationship with myself seemed to be an even harder task! However, as things turned out, I realised that I failed miserably in my early relationships because I had insufficient or little self love.
If you’ve suffered from low self esteem, then it goes to show that you are lacking in self love. You may even find it difficult to even search your heart for that little bit of love you have for yourself. I dare say that your mind has been so ingrained with self sabotaging thoughts for the longest time, that loving yourself sounds unnatural to you.
However, nothing is going to happen if you do not make a conscious decision. And that includes Attracting Abundance. When you don’t love yourself, you are basically telling the Universe that you are unworthy or undeserving of any love or positive outcomes that have the same vibrational match as love.
Learning to love yourself starts with making a conscious decision, an intention to become happy and lead a fulfilled life. When you do not love yourself and suffer from low self esteem, you can find that it impossible to ever reach the potential that you suspect you have.
“Love yourself first and everything falls into line.”
Lucille Ball quotes (American radio and motion-picture actress and comedy star, 1911-1989)
When you make a decision to love yourself, you are really saying that you want to come alive. You accept that you are responsible for the outcomes that you experience in your life and would like yourself to shine from living a fulfilling life.
So if you’ve decided on loving yourself but are as equally stumped on how to love yourself, as I was back then, here are 17 ways which I believe can be helpful:
1. Fall in love with yourself. Think about what makes you You. Just like a flower that needs watering to grow, learn to nurture yourself in every way. Love yourself for all the good that you see and accept your flaws and the fact that you are imperfect. This does not meant that you do not learn to change from your shortcomings; instead, you are being gentle and kind to yourself for all your flaws. Look in the mirror and fall in love with the reflection that is You.
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”
Oscar Wilde quotes (Irish Poet, Novelist, Dramatist and Critic, 1854-1900)
2. Eliminate Self Criticism. Do you often berate yourself over the tiniest thing? Is there a little voice inside your head that often tells you that you are no good because you are stupid or make mistakes. If you find that you criticise yourself often, make an effort to stop the self criticism.
“I CAN is 100 times more important than IQ.” — unknown
3. Be Kind And Positive. When you start to think kindly and positively about yourself, the love you have for yourself just grows. Make it a habit to praise yourself everyday, while in the front of the mirror. Because of such thoughts, you naturally undertake empowering actions that support your development.
4. Acknowledge Your Effort. It’s not always about winning or having success in everything that you do. Many times, it is the effort that counts! Acknowledge that you’ve done your best, even if you have failed to produce tangible results.
Bring Your Dreams to Life!
Just released - The Dream Manifestation Wizard. A powerful software that uses a quantum approach to help you manifest all your dreams. Download your copy here.
5. Let Go Of Worry. Loving yourself requires you to let go of your worry. It is a horrible way to live a life filled with constant worrying. I can attest to that! Worry does not help in any way. It cannot, on its own, make things happen. Only wise actions can! So instead of worrying, spend time thinking about what you can do to help in the situation. If the situation is beyond your control, then ask the Universe for your desired outcome and let things work out on their own. Things will come to be, if they are meant to be.
“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.” — Epictetus quotes (Greek philosopher associated with the Stoics, AD 55-c.135)
6. Trust Yourself. Have confidence in your abilities. Know that you have the ability to make important changes for yourself, for as long as you put your heart to it. You can also support yourself by visualizing desired outcomes.
“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”
Benjamin Spock quotes (American Pediatrician and Author, 1903-1998)
7. Forgive Yourself. If you have made mistakes in the past that had caused you to feel less worthy, then you need to forgive yourself. All of us make mistakes; so there really is no need to beat yourself up over them. Or if you’ve been carrying around a baggage of emotional hurt because of a childhood trauma, learn to forgive yourself that it is not your fault.
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”
Lewis B. Smedes quotes
8. Be Truthful To Yourself. Loving yourself requires you to be truthful about your own feelings. If you are happy, acknowledge the joy. If you are sad, acknowledge the sorrow. When you are truthful about your feelings, you do not try to lie to yourself or seek to bury your negative emotions. Instead, acknowledging what you feel provides a good guide to what your thoughts are. And as we all know, thoughts can be changed, so that healing and self growth can take place.
9. Grow Spiritually. When you spend time growing spiritually, loving yourself is an automatic thing. You become more peaceful, connected, kind, loving and compassionate. You nurture a mind that grows more beautiful by the day. How to not love yourself in the process?
10. Make Positive Affirmations Everyday. Post affirmations that can help raise your self esteem everyday. For instance, say this to yourself “I love and accept myself completely and unconditionally.” Read your affirmations out loud several times a day.
11. Express Gratitude. Express gratitude for the person that you are. For instance, cultivate an appreciation for your strengths and gifts. Also, feel a sense of gratitude that you are alive and well, and fully capable of making a difference in your life.
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12. Nurture Your Dreams. Why deny yourself your dreams? When you nurture your dreams, you would love the life that you are leading. Every moment that you live is a joy because you are expressing yourself fully.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. —Mark Twain
13. Boost Your Self Confidence. Make a deliberate attempt to look for opportunities that can help improve your sense of Self. For instance, if you are particularly good at doing something, set aside more time to indulge and improve your skills on it. Knowing that you have particular gifts can boost your self esteem.
14. Relax. You need to give yourself space to take breaks every now and then. If you spend your time working, without paying attention to your health, it also means that you do not love yourself well enough to take care of your own body. Fill your time with silence, soothing music and visions of beauty; anything that nourishes your Soul.
15. Have Fun. Inject some fun into your life. Life is meant to be an enjoyable. Don’t take life or yourself too seriously. If you can think of life in this manner, you automatically relax and quit worrying over things that do not matter.
16. Look After Your Body. It is important that you strengthen yourself with proper nutrition and regular exercise. Your body is a temple and you should treat it with respect, love and care. It has been found that the lack of self love is often the root causes of conditions like eating disorders, obesity or even terminal diseases.
“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.”
Jim Rohn quotes (American Speaker and Author. He is famous for motivational audio programs for Business and Life. )
17. Learn To See Beauty. When you learn to see beauty in every thing, you will also see beauty in yourself. Hence, stop to smell the flowers. Notice everything. Feel everything. The pink blush of the flowers in your garden, the greeness of the plains, the whisper of the gentle wind, or the myraid hues of an evening sky.
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
Be Thankful to Those Who Inspire Us
"In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit."
~Albert Schweitzer
~Albert Schweitzer
Monday, July 20, 2009
Red Guides You to Reflect On Your Perfect Life
Perfection reflection
It is only when we take the time to look over our lives that we can truly see how some things came to be. Through reflection, most of us will find that we have a lot to be thankful for, and we will begin to understand how perfect our life really is. Try looking in these eight places first:
1. You. You should always be #1 on your list. The mere fact that you have survived this long is a testament to your own personal perfection. Life is fragile and uncertain, so every day that you are here - be grateful!
2. Your health. Okay, you may not be in perfect condition by scientific standards, but if you are getting through the days, you are doing something right - and creating the opportunity for improvement. How perfect is that?
3. Love. Whether or not you have someone special is secondary to the fact that you are a loving person, a person capable of giving and receiving love. Even during times of heartbreak, being able to feel so deeply is a gift. It may not always be pleasant, but you can't have great pain without knowing great joy. Be happy that you can feel, and be grateful that you can share those feelings… even if it's just with a friend right now.
4. Family. Family isn't limited to the humans that share our DNA. The closest of friends and most of our spoiled pets are family, too. Rejoice in the memories made with all the members of your family, and look forward to those who are yet to come!
5. Friends. People often overlook how many friends they really have, and don't always fully appreciate the friends they do include in the tally. Remember - the discounted and the underappreciated will still stick around, because you are who you are. That speaks volumes. In some way, shape, or form these people see perfection within you.
6. Loss. Most people think that a loss of any kind is an injustice, but often people and things are removed from our lives in order to teach us how to embrace something else. Cherish the perfection of every moment with that which brings you joy, because everything changes... eventually.
7. Life. Marvel at how a world of such chaos can keep evolving. The flow of the changing seasons, the warmth of the sun, the chill of the wind. Humans and nature always seem to be at odds, and yet somehow we continue to evolve and survive. While the coexistence may not be everyone's ideal, it doesn't make it any less perfect.
8. Memories. Memories, both good and bad, should be cherished. Our ability to pull joy, strength, or understanding from an event that happened long ago is simply amazing. So be amazed! And realize that every memory, no matter how it makes us feel, is perfect. Because all of our memories have led us to this place - today - which is (you guessed it) perfect!
So instead of spending our energy focusing on what we don't have, or where we want to be, or what bad things happened to us up until this point, let's just exist in the perfection of right now. Realize that each one of us is perfect, as are our lives. "Perfect" isn't synonymous with "easy" - it is just the ability to understand what is there, to see beyond what is not, and to be grateful for the opportunity and experience of right now!
It is only when we take the time to look over our lives that we can truly see how some things came to be. Through reflection, most of us will find that we have a lot to be thankful for, and we will begin to understand how perfect our life really is. Try looking in these eight places first:
1. You. You should always be #1 on your list. The mere fact that you have survived this long is a testament to your own personal perfection. Life is fragile and uncertain, so every day that you are here - be grateful!
2. Your health. Okay, you may not be in perfect condition by scientific standards, but if you are getting through the days, you are doing something right - and creating the opportunity for improvement. How perfect is that?
3. Love. Whether or not you have someone special is secondary to the fact that you are a loving person, a person capable of giving and receiving love. Even during times of heartbreak, being able to feel so deeply is a gift. It may not always be pleasant, but you can't have great pain without knowing great joy. Be happy that you can feel, and be grateful that you can share those feelings… even if it's just with a friend right now.
4. Family. Family isn't limited to the humans that share our DNA. The closest of friends and most of our spoiled pets are family, too. Rejoice in the memories made with all the members of your family, and look forward to those who are yet to come!
5. Friends. People often overlook how many friends they really have, and don't always fully appreciate the friends they do include in the tally. Remember - the discounted and the underappreciated will still stick around, because you are who you are. That speaks volumes. In some way, shape, or form these people see perfection within you.
6. Loss. Most people think that a loss of any kind is an injustice, but often people and things are removed from our lives in order to teach us how to embrace something else. Cherish the perfection of every moment with that which brings you joy, because everything changes... eventually.
7. Life. Marvel at how a world of such chaos can keep evolving. The flow of the changing seasons, the warmth of the sun, the chill of the wind. Humans and nature always seem to be at odds, and yet somehow we continue to evolve and survive. While the coexistence may not be everyone's ideal, it doesn't make it any less perfect.
8. Memories. Memories, both good and bad, should be cherished. Our ability to pull joy, strength, or understanding from an event that happened long ago is simply amazing. So be amazed! And realize that every memory, no matter how it makes us feel, is perfect. Because all of our memories have led us to this place - today - which is (you guessed it) perfect!
So instead of spending our energy focusing on what we don't have, or where we want to be, or what bad things happened to us up until this point, let's just exist in the perfection of right now. Realize that each one of us is perfect, as are our lives. "Perfect" isn't synonymous with "easy" - it is just the ability to understand what is there, to see beyond what is not, and to be grateful for the opportunity and experience of right now!
Saturday, July 18, 2009
Friday, July 17, 2009
The Art of Harmony
The Art of Harmony
How do you get it?
by Psychic Verbena
Some people find harmony by striding down a crowded, bustling urban street, hammering out a deal on their Blackberry. For others harmony is found in silence, space, big trees and solitude. Harmony happens most easily when you're living the life you want. You're doing what floats your boat, and life just feels right.
Unlike harmony in music, math or physics, each person's experience of life harmony is unique. But because we live in a world of contrast and change, any sense of harmony that depends on outer circumstances is bound to be jostled and knocked out of alignment - sometimes frequently.
Out of harmony
Challenges in health, love, money or work are hard to avoid, and some are easier to restore to harmony than others. But what can really mess with your mind is impending change - especially change that seems to be out of your hands, when events appear to be moving you away from what you want. Sometimes they seem to keep going in the wrong direction no matter how hard you struggle.
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Or you could be experiencing the kind of soul-deep restlessness and incompleteness that usually indicates it's time for you to make a change, no matter how much you hate the thought. For some, though, even getting close to a sense of harmony seems impossible. If you've grown up in challenging circumstances, or recently been hammered by difficulties- or if your experience tells you that life just isn't on your side, and that there's nothing you can do to change it - harmony seems to exist in another universe entirely.
Find and keep it
To put it simply, maintaining harmony is about finding your center. This is easiest to define in martial arts terms. The martial arts teach that your center is an actual place in your body which, when you focus there, allows you to move immediately in any direction with speed, balance and strength.
You can find the same kind of center in your mind, emotions and spirit if you cultivate an attitude of mind and heart that allows you to respond in the moment to any situation with calm and optimism. Once you know how to get to that place and stay there, harmony is yours.
History
For at least as long as there's been written language, philosophers in every culture have recorded their thoughts about how to maintain harmony, and they pretty much agree that it's all about a positive attitude. No matter how it is achieved - meditation, non-attachment, faith, trust, or self-confidence - a positive attitude is at the core of a harmonious existence.
Of course, self-confidence is a powerful basis for your positive attitude. If you believe in your heart and soul that you can cope with anything, then many of life's fears won't get you down. But self-confidence isn't enough to keep you in a state of harmony by itself. You can have full faith in your ability to cope with anything and still be desperately unhappy. So what's the missing ingredient?
Staying power
If you have a spiritual practice that sustains and nourishes you, or if your friends, family, or spiritual community is very supportive of you - or if you believe in a higher power that always works toward well being - then you have found one of the two best paths to harmony.
But very often a person's spiritual practice leads them to an even more powerful path, grounding them in a spiritual reality that can sustain or restore harmony like magic. It seems like the opposite of self-confidence - and yet, amazingly, it confers a deeper and more permanent level of confidence, one that is rooted in a sense of being one with the Divine. It is something that is activated by your open, optimistic participation in life.
Buddhists define this state as one of non-attachment. It means you're willing to let go of control, to accept the situation when challenges and changes crop up. Experience or faith (or both) have taught you that it's a good idea to go along for the ride - first, because it's more restful than struggling, but also (and even more importantly) because very often your higher power is creating something far better than you could have imagined on your own. You just need to stay centered, and alert to the possibilities along the way.
When you're able to take what comes - to go through life with your head up, your eyes open and a delighted interest in everything that occurs, because you just know that the future is a gift waiting to for you to unwrap it - then harmony will become your natural state.
How do you get it?
by Psychic Verbena
Some people find harmony by striding down a crowded, bustling urban street, hammering out a deal on their Blackberry. For others harmony is found in silence, space, big trees and solitude. Harmony happens most easily when you're living the life you want. You're doing what floats your boat, and life just feels right.
Unlike harmony in music, math or physics, each person's experience of life harmony is unique. But because we live in a world of contrast and change, any sense of harmony that depends on outer circumstances is bound to be jostled and knocked out of alignment - sometimes frequently.
Out of harmony
Challenges in health, love, money or work are hard to avoid, and some are easier to restore to harmony than others. But what can really mess with your mind is impending change - especially change that seems to be out of your hands, when events appear to be moving you away from what you want. Sometimes they seem to keep going in the wrong direction no matter how hard you struggle.
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Or you could be experiencing the kind of soul-deep restlessness and incompleteness that usually indicates it's time for you to make a change, no matter how much you hate the thought. For some, though, even getting close to a sense of harmony seems impossible. If you've grown up in challenging circumstances, or recently been hammered by difficulties- or if your experience tells you that life just isn't on your side, and that there's nothing you can do to change it - harmony seems to exist in another universe entirely.
Find and keep it
To put it simply, maintaining harmony is about finding your center. This is easiest to define in martial arts terms. The martial arts teach that your center is an actual place in your body which, when you focus there, allows you to move immediately in any direction with speed, balance and strength.
You can find the same kind of center in your mind, emotions and spirit if you cultivate an attitude of mind and heart that allows you to respond in the moment to any situation with calm and optimism. Once you know how to get to that place and stay there, harmony is yours.
History
For at least as long as there's been written language, philosophers in every culture have recorded their thoughts about how to maintain harmony, and they pretty much agree that it's all about a positive attitude. No matter how it is achieved - meditation, non-attachment, faith, trust, or self-confidence - a positive attitude is at the core of a harmonious existence.
Of course, self-confidence is a powerful basis for your positive attitude. If you believe in your heart and soul that you can cope with anything, then many of life's fears won't get you down. But self-confidence isn't enough to keep you in a state of harmony by itself. You can have full faith in your ability to cope with anything and still be desperately unhappy. So what's the missing ingredient?
Staying power
If you have a spiritual practice that sustains and nourishes you, or if your friends, family, or spiritual community is very supportive of you - or if you believe in a higher power that always works toward well being - then you have found one of the two best paths to harmony.
But very often a person's spiritual practice leads them to an even more powerful path, grounding them in a spiritual reality that can sustain or restore harmony like magic. It seems like the opposite of self-confidence - and yet, amazingly, it confers a deeper and more permanent level of confidence, one that is rooted in a sense of being one with the Divine. It is something that is activated by your open, optimistic participation in life.
Buddhists define this state as one of non-attachment. It means you're willing to let go of control, to accept the situation when challenges and changes crop up. Experience or faith (or both) have taught you that it's a good idea to go along for the ride - first, because it's more restful than struggling, but also (and even more importantly) because very often your higher power is creating something far better than you could have imagined on your own. You just need to stay centered, and alert to the possibilities along the way.
When you're able to take what comes - to go through life with your head up, your eyes open and a delighted interest in everything that occurs, because you just know that the future is a gift waiting to for you to unwrap it - then harmony will become your natural state.
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